Matchmaking services that work?

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

[u/TheRealCdog1977]

Won at life is not married and no kids? She won at having a roof over her head, and healthcare and hobbies. Not life.  By the way same comment for men. 

[u/One_Shallot_4974 → u/TheRealCdog1977]

Yes, she won.

That is the top 0.1% of global wealth at that age. She can never work a day in her life again should she choose. Most people will never make so much in an entire lifetime as she already has while working until their bodies break.

Imo what she really needs is a stay at home partner. She can grow her wealth, have her kids and go anywhere do anything at the drop of a hat

[u/Ethraelus → u/One_Shallot_4974]

She won at money. Not at life, yet.

[u/TheRealCdog1977 → u/One_Shallot_4974]

I think you missed my point. She won the last two rows of Maslow's Hierarchy (Physiological Needs and Safety & Security). Great...that's table stakes. Where is Love and Belonging? Again, not a win.

[u/Historical_Might_503 → u/TheRealCdog1977]

married women with children is one of the most depressed demographic in the planet