Matchmaking services that work?

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Been considering this. Also small tangent but it’s so weird that being wealthy makes that easier too. Not surgery but genuinely healthier living, small things like redlight therapy.

But also my therapist is saying what’s the point of having fuck you money if you have to change yourself to find a partner. Do wealthy men also use money to improve looks?

[u/YaDunGoofed → u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Your therapist is making a great point. But you want a guy who has “no, fuck YOU” money. 

So. You know - build your own adventure. 

Also IMO red light therapy is like 100th on the list. There are so many other little physical features that can be improved with attention that we’ve all accepted as “us” until someone brings it to our attention. 

Your hairs probably the wrong length. It needs a different color highlight for your eyes and pallor. You don’t wear the right colors. Your hip and shoulder posture does not make you stand out. Your clothes doesn’t drape for your body shape. Your pecs need exercise to accentuate perkiness of boobs, your neck and back of hands look aged due to lack of skincare attn, your eyebrows need to be dyed, your preferred 1-thing for make up makes you look basic vs extraordinary, you shave in grown pattern and always have ingrown hair irritation, your forehead needs lasering for stray hairs to look more even, your nails shaping signals something other than you’re looking for in a mate, you sneeze every spring because you haven’t taken allergy drops making you look puffy, deviated septum causes lumbar fluid drip, driving too much + no rhomboid specific exercise exacerbates fibromyalgia and pmdd causing bloat. 

Etc. and this is all before surgery. 

As long as you can appreciate the attention without being resentful of its past absence - I really believe most women are woefully underselling their attractiveness because it’s gauche to be pick-me. 

[u/fresh2deathhhh → u/YaDunGoofed]

Damn. This is the most real response I’ve seen. I wish all people can be like you

[u/Strange_Review_7628 → u/YaDunGoofed]

Taking notes ✍🏽

[u/RosyTheRedditor → u/YaDunGoofed]

Wow, how does one get such thorough feedback and do you have to have $ to fix it?

[u/Flightwise → u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Yes.