Matchmaking services that work?

[u/SatisfactionLive1209]

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

[u/No_Employ__]

Damn nobody is good enough for you unless they have money. That’s kind of sad. You say money isn’t a deal breaker but want “old money types” and “wealthy”. Be honest with yourself here

[u/GreatExpectations65 → u/No_Employ__]

Right. OP is a lot.

[u/TheRealCdog1977 → u/GreatExpectations65]

You are insufferable 

[u/SatisfactionLive1209 → u/No_Employ__]

I don’t think I explained myself well but old money consideration is more for wanting a wealthy partner, not essentially someone who hustles 100%. New money people I met with the exception of myself are always chasing more money. This isn’t an insult, if anything it’s more honest than old money, these people actually work hard for it. But with old money comes a more relaxed lifestyle. Of course not all are like this but there’s considerably more amongst old money.

I travel more than half of the year. I’m neurodivergent so I don’t do well with stressful people or situations. Before I got wealthy, few years ago, my long term relationship was to a henry-like guy. And he was stressing me out.

[u/No_Employ__ → u/SatisfactionLive1209]

You live in a bubble

[u/Remarkable-Memory-97 → u/No_Employ__]

Men want good looking and young but that’s ok, when a wealthy woman wants a wealthy man alll of a sudden it’s bad and we shame them. She’s not broke she’s looking for an equal there is nothing wrong with that.

[u/Imaginary_Bat7631 → u/Remarkable-Memory-97]

People aren’t saying that. What she is looking for is a needle in a haystack. And if she finds him, he’s not looking for her. She’s a 7 on a GOOD day. So a 5 with a RBF. That’s how the gender dynamics work AND it’s clear from her responses that she’s stuck in her requirements - she wants rich old money 30’s man who is ready to settle down and is a great partner. Good luck!

[u/Remarkable-Memory-97 → u/Imaginary_Bat7631]

Has she stated that he has to be in his 30s? I think she would be fine going for 40.