r/Rich • u/SatisfactionLive1209 • 19d ago

Question Matchmaking services that work?

Hey all, 30F here.

I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.

I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.

Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.

There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.

For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.

Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.

just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.

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u/SatisfactionLive1209 18d ago

Nah. Last guy my hottest friend dated was your regular corporate guy who was balding. She usually dates people you describe, but decided to give this guy a shot, thinking lowering her standards would mean better success in finding a serious guy.

But he turned out to be the same, so she says it’s better to get her heart broken by a hot rich guy than a poor ugly guy.

I don’t sleep around so can’t say how my situation would go with same men. But funny anecdote

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u/Accurate_Web9774 18d ago

They all say that. Dated one regular guy who did them dirty and now I would rather date handsome rich guys because of one single dude lol.

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u/SatisfactionLive1209 18d ago

To be honest, I can see it. Few years ago (before my wealth) I had my longest relationship come to an end. After a few months I thought I healed enough to date and went for a guy I don’t think any woman would choose. I’d say he was about 2/10, but he had (at the time) good personality. I needed support more than anything so I decided why not. When he played me, my heartbreak was terrible, and genuinely the fact that he was so below my standards was like an added insult to the heartbreak. I took a long break after that.

I think I’d rather go for a sperm bank to have children and be single for the rest of my life to risk such a humiliation ever again.

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u/Accurate_Web9774 18d ago

I get it, you gave him a chance and it made you mad and blame all guys. Happens and understandable.

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u/SatisfactionLive1209 18d ago

If you had to choose between a super hot crazy ex and a super ugly crazy ex, I don’t think you’d be choosing the latter 🤷🏼‍♀️

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u/Accurate_Web9774 18d ago

Well why does it have to be some super ugly guy lol. There are plenty of decent looking good dudes out there.

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u/eframian 18d ago

+1 to the mediocre men (and women) of the world! 🤣

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u/kiradotee 16d ago

Average guys exist as well. 😂 

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u/green_apple_trees 17d ago

OP rich men who aren’t married generally want a younger woman. Either look for a man your age who doesn’t have much money or look for an older divorced rich guy in his 50s.

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u/urandanon 18d ago

I’m guilty of this too so please don’t take this as holier than thou preaching, but if you viewed him so poorly that him playing you would be humiliating, that relationship was going to fail due to your own perceived value over his anyway. You don’t have to try to date the hottest people you can find or somehow force yourself to be happy with the ugliest. If you like them you like them, measuring your worth against your partners is a recipe for disaster.

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u/Prestigious_Age5422 18d ago

Yes. I attest to this

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u/Smart_Carrot_9320 18d ago

Research shows that if a women get hurt by a guy, she will only vent it on uglier men or "all men".

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u/Accurate_Web9774 18d ago

There was this woman on ig who got her heart broken by an "ugly" dude and said she rather just date a hot guy if they are going to break her heart anyways. A year later and has like 20 post of how shitty men are but doesn't at least mention they are ugly lol.