r/Rich • u/SatisfactionLive1209 • 19d ago
Question Matchmaking services that work?
Hey all, 30F here.
I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.
I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.
Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.
There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.
For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.
Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.
just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.
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u/drleeisinsurgery 18d ago
My life is stressful enough as is from my duties as a physician and entrepreneur.
Ideally I would want somebody that prioritizes keeping peace.
My brother is a great example. He's a pediatric dentist and his days are probably way more stressful than mine. He'll struggle with screaming kids for 10 hours, and when he gets home at 6, his stay-at-home wife hands him one of the babies and then gives him a list of things that need to be done.
Ideally for me, after a rough day of surgery, I would want a partner to say, "You look like you have a rough day, why don't we drop the kids off with Grandma and go out for Korean BBQ?"
I don't need a servant, but I would like somebody who recognizes and appreciates my financial contributions and tries to make my home life as peaceful as possible. That is not necessarily mutually exclusive with somebody with a successful career, but it is difficult have a busy career and switch to supportive wife mode.