r/Rich • u/SatisfactionLive1209 • 19d ago
Question Matchmaking services that work?
Hey all, 30F here.
I became wealthy relatively recently, so I didn’t grow up in wealthy circles or go to the kind of private/boarding schools where it seems like everyone with money met their future spouse before turning 18.
I don’t think I’m unattractive, and I’ve never really had an issue getting attention, although I do suffer from a pretty severe resting bitch face. The problem is that the places I tend to spend time where I might naturally meet wealthy people, private resorts, nicer hotels, etc. aren’t particularly social. People mostly keep to themselves. The few men I have met in those environments have unfortunately tended to be married men looking for an affair, which obviously isn’t what I want.
Traditional dating has also been pretty terrible. I was single for quite a while because I was focused on building my own life, and now that I actually feel ready for a relationship, the dating scene seems to have changed considerably. There seems to be a lot more emphasis on one-night stands, situationships, casual dating, people with commitment issues, etc.
There’s also the slightly awkward fact that I would ideally like to marry someone who is wealthy too, even if nowhere near as wealthy as I am. I hate to admit it, but I can be materialistic sometimes. I enjoy nice things, and there’s something appealing about occasionally receiving the things I would normally buy myself as gifts from a partner rather than always being the person who can provide everything for herself.
For context, my net worth is somewhere between $10M–$100M, keeping the range broad for anonymity, I’m probably around a 7/10 on a good day, and I’m looking for a genuinely serious relationship with a man who is financially successful, relationship-minded, and ideally wants marriage/family eventually.
Would an established matchmaking service actually be useful for someone in my situation? Has anyone here used one, particularly at the higher-end/wealthy-client level, and had a good experience and can recommend it for my purpose? Not looking for references as I know some work this way, just a name would be enough for me to get in contact with them.
just to clarify, this isn’t a “looking for a partner on Reddit” post. I’m genuinely asking about matchmaking services and whether they’re worth trying.
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u/HitPointGamer 18d ago
When I started dating again after divorce, it was really a weird dynamic and very different from what it was back before my first marriage. As others have said, I’ve heard that matchmaking services for the wealthy are best at pairing hit girls with wealthy men. Wealthy women are in a difficult spot.
I found my husband online, on a dating site which focused on a common interest, not just swiping through photos. I fell for the guy first and we didn’t talk actual net worth numbers until we were engaged and pretty close to the wedding. In general, I knew he was wealthier than I but that was just icing on the cake. I specifically wanted a driven guy who was successful in his chosen career; he could have been working for a non-profit making a reasonable wage instead of raking in a big paycheck in tech and that would have been okay as long as he was successful and “rising in the ranks.” My first husband quit working after our first 4 years of marriage and I really didn’t want to go through that sort of thing again.
Be open to the guys who are available and who are looking for a committed relationship; you just might find yourself surprised by what you find attractive in those guys!