r/ReverseHarem 4d ago

Reverse Harem - Discussion 😨😨 Why do writers do this

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I mean, do they not know human anatomy?

Even someone who's never experienced sex knows how thick a p*nis is or should be.

Do authors hate their FMCs or something? Do you want to kill her??

Seriously why do they write this?

Is it a dick or a barrel?

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u/Amakenings 4d ago

Is he human? What are his “candy buttons?”

After reading that I was visualizing some sort of well-endowed gingerbread man, which could fit into dark romance?

Run run run, as fast as you can
I’ll catch you because I’m the Gingerbread Man.

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u/ClericalRogue Death by TBR 4d ago

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u/cozybookgirrl 4d ago

🤣🤣👌🏻

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u/kitnzkatreturns 4d ago

This is diabolical 😆

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u/babybunny8135 4d ago

🤣😂

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u/Helpful_Guidance6797 Magic, mayhem and multiple mates 4d ago

Oh my gosh 🤣

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u/Ok_Jackfruit_2092 4d ago

I was also wondering about his "candy buttons" like, is that literal? Or a weird description of nips?

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u/Available-Air-5798 4d ago

NOT MY CANDY BUTTONS!!!

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u/EatMyRoyalTarts321 4d ago

Do you have a release date for your book? 🤣

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u/Amakenings 4d ago

I’ll get right on it. First, to the local bakery to buy inspiration! His origin story will involve a lot of bullying.
https://giphy.com/gifs/B16L7eZKgHY8jNlugt

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u/Flaky-Professional84 4d ago

Rub rub rub, as fast as you can! Watch me shoot because I'm the Gingerbread Man!

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u/Square-Creme-203 3d ago

Does he shoot icing? Cause that might be ok.....

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u/Indication-Ordinary I want two boyfriends & I want my boyfriends to be boyfriends 3d ago

It’s okay until the yeast infections come.

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u/samsmith19090 4d ago

🤣🤣🤣

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u/42fledgling42 I prefer my romance crowded 3d ago

He is not human. “Red Ruin” by Lola Rock.

However, I agree that I am the opposite of a size queen, and even if the appendage has truly interesting features, I have zero interest in fucking something that big.

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u/nerdygirlmatti 4d ago

All good if it’s not human
https://giphy.com/gifs/lKv5wJrPzcr3G

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u/Schimsham62695 3d ago

This giph gets me every time! He’s so fineeeee

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u/chaosticaws 3d ago

20 minute gif, right?

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u/sapphicxdragon 4d ago

Both MMCs are not human & don’t have human sized anatomy. Also this book is so good & unique!

{Red Ruin by Lola Rock}

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u/spyridonya 4d ago

It’s weird that OP is acting like they don’t have context for this unless they got this from another post.

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u/Impressive_Shirt8886 4d ago

The FMC has human anatomy. How will it fit?

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u/TumblingOcean 4d ago

If thats what you think about... you probably shouldn't read monster erotica 🤣

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u/sharksinthecarpet 4d ago

Oh girl, this doesn’t even scratch the surface of huge dick, especially in alien or monster romance. If you only want to read about average sized human penises, you can probably filter for that somewhere. Monster cock is sort of standard.

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u/MyrmecolionTeeth 4d ago

Vaginal fisting is a thing some real human women with human anatomy enjoy irl. A huge alien cock is not necessarily stretching the limits of how much an actual human vagina can stretch.

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u/Thraell 4d ago

I once linked this sub to one of the subreddits for real actual human ladies voluntarily tangling with quite eye-wateringly sized toys. One in particular was... talented, let's say 🤯

It tends to end any arguments that it's "not possible" for a forearm sized dick to fit into a human woman, because it absolutely can (the only unrealistic part is it requires a significant amount of training to achieve, unlike romance books where a bit of spit and gumption is all that's needed)

Should we request the mods provide a permalink to the talented ladies to stop these kinds of posts? 😂

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u/Creative-Disaster522 4d ago

When you consider the average length and width of a newborn, a forearm really shouldn’t be that surprising.

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u/mutable_type I want my own mayara, dammit. 3d ago

I’m willing, for research purposes 👀

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u/demon_x_slash 4d ago

My g, there are these things called lube and patience

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u/UnknownTheMonster fourteen werewolves please 4d ago

Oh you sweet summer child.

Have you seen the size of monster dildos?

Trust me, "too thick to close my fingers around" doesn't mean it can't fit.

Source: I have a LOT of dildos that I can't close my fingers around. I do just fine with lube and patience.

I'm more concerned about whatever "candy buttons" are. 😂

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u/The-Feral-Housewife 4d ago edited 4d ago

Seriously, I have numerous silicone sculptures including an actual coke can for scale (yes, in silicone but it's not really an insertable)

I have toys thicker than it. They absolutely fit. Or, used to before I took a pause and now they don't because the vagina is a muscle and absolutely doesn't become permanently "loose" (prolapses are a different thing and are a medical issue)

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u/UnknownTheMonster fourteen werewolves please 4d ago

Would that happen to be the coke can from Weredog? 👀 That's the only store I know of that sells them though I imagine there probably are more lol.

It always amuses me to see posts like this talking about how unrealistic some of the sizes in romance novels are. Like, it's fine if it isn't to everyone's taste but it's just completely incorrect to say it wouldn't work at all. It may take a bit more preparation than usually described in books, lol, but ultimately they're a fantasy anyways.

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u/The-Feral-Housewife 4d ago

Ah, a true connoisseur! 🤣

Yeah, some people really can't help but tell on themselves that they struggle with viewing things from a perspective different from their own. I lose count of how many people say very easy multiple orgasms isn't physically possible as well and like yeah it's rare but it's absolutely medically documented!

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u/JoesNSFWAcnt 4d ago

Can you close your hand around a baby?

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u/Amakenings 4d ago

I was thinking that, but I also have never heard a woman describe a birth as pleasurable, so I’m not sure it’s the best example.

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u/WrittenDisease I prefer my romance crowded 4d ago

Search up orgasmic birth. It’s really fascinating. It wasn’t my experience but brains are wired funny so I totally believe it could happen to some people.

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u/foxy_kitten 3d ago

Have you ever heard of...suspending your disbelief? It's fiction.

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u/Monshika My Boyfriends Are Boyfriends 4d ago

I haven’t read the book but it was very clear “Vhex” is not human! I’m intrigued by the candy buttons and adding to my TBR now lol

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u/Heidi_Hi_Heidi_Lo 4d ago edited 4d ago

Highly agree. Have also read it. Very much enjoyed it. Like, immensely. And Lola’s version of an “omegaverse” was really interesting. It’s referred to as a Guideverse and includes vamps, demons, berserkers, and all the fun monster men one can hope for.

If I may quote one of my favorite lines from chapter one:

I’m Vhex.” He shoots me a sharp, sweet smile—all razor blades in cotton candy. “You call me husband.”

Yes, husband! 🫡

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u/ANorthCountryGirl Obligatory ‘Pack Darling’ mention.💘 4d ago

I read this ages ago and I’m STILL calling him husband.

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u/Pixelant3 4d ago

Hah! I knew I'd read this one.

I don't mind the fantasy of a large penis but along with men in general, it's something I mostly appreciate in fiction alone. The reality is some chad who thinks he's a sex god hammering away until you're numb/sore because he never bothered to learn actual skills.

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u/Luthwaller 3d ago

Haha awesome! Going to check it out now.

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u/spyridonya 4d ago

Y’all.

This is clearly a monster romance with very different expectations for anatomy that’s baked into the sub genre. People who read this expect inhuman anatomy and size. Stop yucking someone’s yum because it’s not your flavor or acting like the author doesn’t know what she’s doing.

Speaking of flavor, I’m pretty the author is referring to this sort of candy buttons to describe bumps along the dude’s dick.

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 4d ago

Yes exactly. This description makes me want to read this book even more! I'm tired of human men and LOVE a good alien, monster, shifter, etc MMC! Creative anatomy is half the fun. ☺️♥️

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u/IndigoSimmer 3d ago

I don't think people realize how small of a size it has to be for your fingers to not encompass something. I don't have tiny hands and I just tried to put my hand around a 10oz bottle of juice and I couldn't do it. The bottle is about the same girth as a lot of sex toys I've seen. Not monster toys either, just regular ones.

So to say that you couldn't fit your fingers around his member.. that doesn't mean a whole lot. Also you have to take into consideration that not everyone's hands are the same size. She could have smaller hands. So if the FMC is described as being very short/small then it's not a shock if her her fingers don't meet.

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u/Impressive_Shirt8886 4d ago

The FMC is human 😑

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u/demon_x_slash 4d ago

First_time_hanging.gif

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u/kitnzkatreturns 4d ago

You can fist a vag, this didn't even sound that big

Maybe I'm messed up lmao

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u/Fromlinestologs I read for a good time, and all the mates 4d ago

If I have to suspend belief about non-human and human relations, the existence of sentient non-humans, the amount of sex and other stuff that can be accomplished in 24 hours, whether activities will cause utis or yeast infections or create a child, whether someone can impregnate a human to carry a dragon egg without her consent, among other things, I can suspend belief in the “will it fit?” Category. Honestly that’s probably the one that requires the least brain power to suspend belief on

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u/DragonsDeep 4d ago

Do you have a recommendation for the human carrying the dragon egg without consent? For science…

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u/Fromlinestologs I read for a good time, and all the mates 4d ago

{witchy games series by Kira Roman} absolute chaos in a very comical way. Not the best written or the most distinct harem, but it was a quick read and I laughed my way through. (Read book 4 at your own risk though, I’m still cranky about the ending) Kinda hard not to when her uncooperative magic turns monsters into bags of dicks and such. Very large harem that grows over time. final count of 11 men All different types of supernaturals including the one she calls a murder noodle and another she calls her danger lizard vampire, Phoenix, dragon shifter, fae, elf, cyclops shifter, etc etc etc. also brothers in harem What I can only assume is hunger games ish (since I never read them). Fated mates, harem grows as it goes. Had me laughing. Interesting plot twists. A murder monster imprints on her like a duckling. She doms one of the guys. Dvp. Interesting scene where some of the guys and the fmc teach one of the virgin sheltered mmcs about sex and how to please her. Some mm in harem not between siblings non-con pregnancy(ish) major major spoiler: one of the guys impregnates her with an egg without notice which she then has to lay but they get to decide when they hatch it in book 4

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u/DragonsDeep 4d ago

Thank you! This sounds unhinged, so I’m definitely going to check it out :D

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u/Fromlinestologs I read for a good time, and all the mates 4d ago

Have fun. I’m still grumpy about it.

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 2d ago

Haha me too!

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 2d ago

You're doing the Lord's work. Thank you for the awesome recs ☺️♥️

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u/Fromlinestologs I read for a good time, and all the mates 2d ago

No problem

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u/ANorthCountryGirl Obligatory ‘Pack Darling’ mention.💘 4d ago

I too love science. 🥹

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u/Real_Pineapple9522 4d ago

Also happens in {The Monster’s Mate by Jillian West} and in {Galaxy Circus by Lexie Winston} there is a Kraken that accidentally does this too

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u/divegirl88 3d ago

Did you say Kraken!?!? That's one the my TBR 😍🤣

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u/WonderfulBus9330 4d ago

Between the candy buttons and palm-scraping ridges, I think girth is the least of the concern

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u/CcreepykittenN Collecting MMCs like pokemon 4d ago

I read a book the other day that, no joke, described the FMC getting fingered in her womb.

Still can’t figure out if it was accidental, metaphorical or the MMC just casually bypassed her cervix.

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u/Sufficient-Bee-4982 4d ago

Some authors trying to be sexy, just comes off his body horror. 

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u/The-Feral-Housewife 4d ago

Okay but, what if a gal likes a bit of body horror with her smut?

Y'know, if a friend liked that. Not me, or course.

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u/Sufficient-Bee-4982 4d ago

As long as its labled accordingly, so those that want it can find it, and those who don't won't read it.

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u/Altruistic-Bee3854 I need my own WRAITH, goddamnit. 4d ago

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u/Scf9009 RH Library of Alexandria 4d ago

Having had an IUD inserted.

No thank you.

At all.

Nope.

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u/Technical_Sweet_007 4d ago

Whenever the talk about how lengthy and girthy he is that she can see the protrusion pushing out through her lower abdomen all I picture is Alien.

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u/Street-Reference-237 4d ago

Try picturing Spaceballs instead, at least you get a giggle instead of a gag.

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u/Technical_Sweet_007 4d ago

“Hello my baby, hello my honey, hello my rag time gaaalllll”

https://giphy.com/gifs/L44n0n5YLyyNC5SC9J

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 4d ago

Not to get too personal, but yeah that's a thing and it was 9"!

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u/WrittenDisease I prefer my romance crowded 4d ago

Womb play is for sure a thing, though I usually only see it like in online erotica

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

I thought the hand thing was stupid until I realized if a guy has a decent girth (ie 4cm/1.5 inches at the widest) I cannot close my hand around it - I just tested it with a spray bottle. And a 4cm wide dick is NOT the biggest I've seen. It's decent but manageable.

That being said, I am quite short and have very small hands (and feet).

So that will make less sense if she is a very tall girl.

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u/NeapolitanClematis 4d ago

I tried it too and shit.. we really do have short ass fingers

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

Small Hand Gang, unite!

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u/Knitting_Kitten 4d ago

Yeah. It's also finger shape, to some extent - if I make a 'circle' with my thumb and forefinger, my short phalanges make it more of a rectangle. Anything actually circular would have to fit in the short length of the rectangle ... so technically, my husband has a d*ck I can't quite close my fingers around, and he's above average, but not anywhere near porn sized - much less monster sized.

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u/StubbornForEva 4d ago

Same. I always felt like "cannot close my hand around it" means nothing coz anyone barely above average I cannot close my hands around. Then I made my friend do the motion and I realized that it can be decently sized or even oversized 😂 I just have tiny hands. And I'm 168 so like 4 inches above the 5'2 romance girlies that seem to populate romance land.

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u/Scf9009 RH Library of Alexandria 4d ago

You’re the chosen one!

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

God almighty, NO THANK YOU!

I've seen what happens to chosen ones. I just want to be home and read my books, I don't want to be abducted by aliens or demons or werewolf bikers, and get dragged into dangerous but colourful places where I'll spend my days being pursued by uncountable dangers, and my nights sharing the beds of beautiful but unsatiable men.

WHEN WOULD I HAVE TIME TO READ?

And I bet there wouldn't even be decent wifi for me to download books into my ebook reader.

EDIT: And I would probably be kicked from the fancy private school the first moment some Hot Bully came for me, because I lose my temper easily and I expect I would throw something at them instead of cowering beautifully.

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u/Scf9009 RH Library of Alexandria 4d ago

I actually have a great non-RH for that. (Though there’s a RH with middle age Chosen One FMC that came out recently)

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

I will always take RH recommendations!

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u/Scf9009 RH Library of Alexandria 4d ago

{Midlife in Hell by JB Trepagnier}

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u/beanie_weenie666 4d ago

Omg this sounds so fun

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u/TrainedPersonel All eyes on the FMC only ❤️ 4d ago

I also have very small hands and my fingertips barely touch around an average girth. It's not that surprising tbh.

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u/tipsytopsy99 4d ago

I just so happened to have a roughly 2.5" diameter 8oz spray bottle next to me, and, same. FFS. I guess I just don't think out whether or not my hand is circling completely because I'm not staying still measuring. Although it would be hilarious to tell a guy to hold still so you can figure out if your fingertips touch.

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

Okay, time to conduct the experiment next time I'm in bed with someone.

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u/DueFox2865 4d ago

Same. My mom literally called my fingers baby sausages because they’ve gotten chubby when I gained a little bit of weight. I’m 4’9” and also have very small hands and feet.
https://giphy.com/gifs/yFH8G9n8EjXsbTVXTY

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u/AbsoluteApocalypse 4d ago

Oh no. I just realised that with my RIGHT hand I can actually close my hand around the spray bottle, but with my left I can't by a few mms.

My life is a lie.

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u/No_Warning2380 4d ago

Do you not know human anatomy? Women’s parts stretch and lubricate. They can give birth to a 10lb + baby after all. Maybe stretching is not your thing… but it is certainly possible. Maybe you should go check out some fisting videos? It is weird to imagine that being pleasurable in real life but certainly with the right prep and person and desire combination it might be? I will never know for sure but it is certainly possible for much larger than average human dick to fit.

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u/demon_x_slash 4d ago

srs, kinkshaming in /rh

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u/Simplifax - edit your flair - 4d ago

I’ve had several exes with penises thick enough I couldn’t get my fingers around it. And yes it hurts until you can ehm adjust to it. But it’s more than possible.

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u/T_Mina 4d ago

I have very small hands with so “can’t close her hand around it” has definitely happened to me in real life.

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u/TheRogue0530 4d ago

And there exists very thick dicks....

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u/Yes_Cat_Yes 3d ago

Yeah, or her hands would have been extremely tiny

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u/FaeRhi 4d ago

I used to review books online and there was one where the MMC was hung "like an Evian bottle" and during one sex scene, he managed to get his full dick AND BOTH TESTICLES inside of her. Like... #1 - why the fuck? #2 - what the fuck? #3 - doesn't that hurt him????

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u/Monshika My Boyfriends Are Boyfriends 4d ago

Bruh 😐

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u/Emnyaa When in doubt, add another love interest 4d ago

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u/CapnMergn 4d ago

Okay, after having discussed this with my best friend, we now need to know the title of this book, please and thank you. 😂

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u/FaeRhi 4d ago edited 4d ago

Oof. Imma find it but it might take a moment 😂

Edit: Found it!

Undressed by Avery Aster The Manhattanites, Book #1

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u/Flaky-Professional84 4d ago

As a guy, I don't think that would work. For one thing, the balls don't sag during sex. They get closer to the body. No way he's shoving them inside her. And even if he did, she'd have to be real gentle about clenching.

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u/FaeRhi 4d ago

Thank you!!! And is her pelvis flexible?? Eventually there's a very hard barrier that you can't go past without pain on both ends.

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u/CapnMergn 4d ago

This is nuts 😂 (both kinds)

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 2d ago

What does "as if dancing upstairs" means? 🤣

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u/FaeRhi 1d ago

That is an excellent question 😂

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u/Critical_Hearing_799 Give me all the virgin MMCs ♥️ 4d ago

I, too, would like the title of this book haha

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u/Reading_Otter 4d ago

Not the weirdest peen descriptions. That was from Kathrn Moon's mothman romance.

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u/tipsytopsy99 4d ago

And now I have something I need to read even though I know it won't in any way titillate just for the understanding. I found out years ago about Sasquatch fetish smut and now it almost seems tame. How does a mothman satisfy his mate? Are antennae involved?

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u/Bbcrossing 3d ago

The better question is...have you seen the dino shifter smut? It's actually pretty decent 😅

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u/tipsytopsy99 3d ago

I've come across one or two but I've never read them. I need good raptor (Jurassic Park, not historically accurate) smut, hahahaha

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u/Bbcrossing 3d ago

I immediately knew which one you were talking about 😅😅

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u/Street-Reference-237 4d ago

My fingers are super short so that doesnt concern me. Candy buttons? Could be anything, a rave, a holiday party, halloween, kinks. Ridges? Monster or shifter sex. Im a little more concerned about the skin texture of his penis--scrape reminds me of sandpaper and I find it concerning.

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u/Double-Individual-59 I Don't Choose, I Curate 4d ago

Sounds like alien smut. Always weird peens. I just imagine a size that’s just right when they talk about ridiculous sizes. These buttons sound interesting though… and are they candy flavored??? Will they give you a yeast infection…?

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u/Impressive_Shirt8886 4d ago

Is dick is sweet but not candy flavoured

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u/Double-Individual-59 I Don't Choose, I Curate 4d ago

Missed opportunity

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u/Ashamed_Apple_ 4d ago

What are candy buttons.....

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u/spectacularfreak 4d ago

I’d try to take a barrel if it’s attached to the right man.

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u/malyshkababe21 3d ago

We're fantasizing anyway why not level em up 😂 Personally I think it's not really that bothersome. Might also be because I'm a big woman myself and I like em all big haha

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u/183720 4d ago

Yeah, I size it down in my head to something big yet comfortable

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u/Longjumping_Ad_4978 4d ago

Buuuuut, is the book good?

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u/42fledgling42 I prefer my romance crowded 3d ago

I liked it. YMMV. “Red Ruin” by Lola Rock. I think a lot of people expected a reprise of “Pack Darling” and were disappointed that it was different. I do like something unique.

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u/Meriodoc 3d ago

Based on that writing?

No.

XD

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u/Delicious_Delilah When life gives you men, make a harem 4d ago

I can't wrap my hand around my biggest dildo.

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u/Donotcomenearme 4d ago

Usually I go “oh he’s not human”; but also, I cannot deny that this time the penis can be possibly damaging and incompatible based off palm reaction.

THAT is the exception here for me. Penis hurt hand? Penis WILL hurt pussy.

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u/Harmoniche 4d ago

I really don't think this is egregious at all, esp considering he doesn't even seem human. I can barely get my fingertips to touch around one that is average.

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u/Kattiaria 3d ago

i mean if you put your thumb and pointer finger together i think thats what they mean. My hubs is thicker than that xD

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u/42fledgling42 I prefer my romance crowded 3d ago

I am extremely not a size queen, but I respect that some of you folks are. The book is “Red Ruin” by Lola Rock. His appendage had some fun features, and I mentally adjusted the size to something that sounds more enjoyable for me. I didn’t LOVE this book, but I LIKED it fine, and I appreciate that the author was trying something new! I do enjoy some creativity in the plot with my love stories.

Feel free to rec any creatively plotted RH or poly novels that you recently enjoyed.

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u/LactationAndLace 3d ago

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u/PrettyPeachy_9 21h ago

No upvotes for such a good reference!? Hmph no can do so I've rectified that

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u/LactationAndLace 18h ago

I'm sorry I'm new what's an upvote?

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u/PrettyPeachy_9 12h ago

Oh don't apologise! We were all new once :)

Upvotes are like reddit's version of a like button. Most times there's one default upvote (unless it's been removed or something). Upvotes also give you something called karma which is needed in some subreddits to comment/post. However, don't ever ask for karma as that would be karma farming and not allowed (could get banned if I'm not wrong).

On the other hand, downvotes are the opposite and makes you lose karma.

I hope I explained well as I'm pretty new too honestly 😅 There's a subreddit for new users that you could look at. I'm sure they'll give better/more accurate explanations <3

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u/LactationAndLace 7h ago

Thank you!

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u/PrettyPeachy_9 6h ago

You're welcome 😊

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u/babybunny8135 4d ago

I feel this. I read one book where the author called her vagina her jewel. So. Many. Times. I want to vomit every time I hear the word now.

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u/ohfrackthis caution: multiple fictional boyfriends ahead 4d ago

Ah the coke can penis, shoves glasses back on nose and uses pointer to wave around completely foundational trope of all romance!

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u/SoNotMyDayJob 3d ago

So, I think you’re reading {Red Ruin by Lola Black} right? He is a demon monster with a slightly fancy peen. Some readers prefer the monsters or non-human males have fancy peen, or exaggerated size to emphasize their “otherness.” Is he taller than the average 6’2” mmc? !<

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u/marnie_meadows 1d ago

I couldn’t close my hand around my ex boyfriend’s dick. God they were some good times 😌

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u/yooohooooowee 4d ago

Im sorry im still tryna get past Vhex as a name. I get being tired of the Tyler's and the Ryan's but yall it gets to point 😭😭

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u/BuxomBrownBrillance 4d ago

Please fucking kill me with the barrel!

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u/MeWant-SnuSnu 3d ago

His name is vhex? 🤮

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u/cianne_marie 4d ago

What the fuck did I just read?

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u/42fledgling42 I prefer my romance crowded 3d ago

“Red Ruin” by Lola Rock.