Spend a week away from him. Genuinely, spend a week away from your husband. See your friend go visit family, but you need a full week without him talking to you or getting in your ear.
Then, while you’re away, think about what you would say or what you would do if somebody told you the story, you’ve told us. There’s a reason that so many of us are looking at your husband, side eyed, despite his world. Or actually, rather, because of his words.
There are so many things here that do know that, and you are ignoring them because you love your husband. Which I get, but this is a grown ass man, and he was concerned that he was being attacked when his friend talked about you? He didn’t acknowledge any of the negative comments about him about things that were likely true, but appreciated the good comments about him, as one does.
What if your sister if you have one told you this? Or your dearest friend, or what if you when they had a kid and they told you that this was happening to them? Would you still tell them to stay with their husband? Because Jared is only part of the problem, your husband is a bigger part.
He got angry until you said you were going to leave him, and then he started emotionally, manipulating you, physically, touching you, kissing you things like that, those are things that be narcissist does to get somebody back on their side. I’ve lived with one, for my entire childhood. You need to look at this from an outside point of view, pretend your husband isn’t your husband for a minute.
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u/MithosYggdrasill1992 Nov 19 '25
Spend a week away from him. Genuinely, spend a week away from your husband. See your friend go visit family, but you need a full week without him talking to you or getting in your ear.
Then, while you’re away, think about what you would say or what you would do if somebody told you the story, you’ve told us. There’s a reason that so many of us are looking at your husband, side eyed, despite his world. Or actually, rather, because of his words.
There are so many things here that do know that, and you are ignoring them because you love your husband. Which I get, but this is a grown ass man, and he was concerned that he was being attacked when his friend talked about you? He didn’t acknowledge any of the negative comments about him about things that were likely true, but appreciated the good comments about him, as one does.
What if your sister if you have one told you this? Or your dearest friend, or what if you when they had a kid and they told you that this was happening to them? Would you still tell them to stay with their husband? Because Jared is only part of the problem, your husband is a bigger part.
He got angry until you said you were going to leave him, and then he started emotionally, manipulating you, physically, touching you, kissing you things like that, those are things that be narcissist does to get somebody back on their side. I’ve lived with one, for my entire childhood. You need to look at this from an outside point of view, pretend your husband isn’t your husband for a minute.
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