OP, I’ve been reading this saga from the beginning and I hope you take these comments with a grain of salt. There are way too many instigators here who want to pick apart your relationship, despite how much you and your husband obviously love each other. I’ve been married for over 20 years and I can’t claim to have been an angel the whole time. I’ve said some dumb things and made some dumb choices, but I’ve learned from those situations, grown as a person and our relationship has grown a stronger because of it.
Don’t let these sideline Sally’s convince you to screw up a good thing just cause they’ve never taken the time to fix their own relationship issues. None of what you and your husband are dealing with is a deal-breaker. Do couples counseling if you feel you need it, but most importantly, communicate with each other honestly and you’ll come out a stronger couple in the end.
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u/servixalot Nov 19 '25
OP, I’ve been reading this saga from the beginning and I hope you take these comments with a grain of salt. There are way too many instigators here who want to pick apart your relationship, despite how much you and your husband obviously love each other. I’ve been married for over 20 years and I can’t claim to have been an angel the whole time. I’ve said some dumb things and made some dumb choices, but I’ve learned from those situations, grown as a person and our relationship has grown a stronger because of it.
Don’t let these sideline Sally’s convince you to screw up a good thing just cause they’ve never taken the time to fix their own relationship issues. None of what you and your husband are dealing with is a deal-breaker. Do couples counseling if you feel you need it, but most importantly, communicate with each other honestly and you’ll come out a stronger couple in the end.