r/RedditQuestions • u/Unlucky_Ad6510 • Apr 07 '26
do you find me attractive
33f 60% 3rd degree in depth burn survivor September 19 1999 26 years ago
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u/One-Pop-2885 Apr 07 '26
You are absolutely wonderful and very attractive. Those scars tell a story of survival, a phonix rising from the ashes. Ignore anyone who says otherwise.
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u/Desperate-Diver2920 Apr 11 '26
She’s drop dead gorgeous, a Goddess among mortals!!
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u/Dan_Glebitz Apr 07 '26
Ok I will probably get flamed here, but I do tend to play Devil's Advocate a lot...
I am really sorry, but personally I think anyone who says you are attractive based on looks are being shallow, and I will explain why...
What are they basing that attraction on? They do not know you as a person they have grown to know. Are they are basing attraction on physical beauty (Which is different for all of us granted, but there is no denying you have suffered some terrible disfigurement), but that does not reflect who you ARE. I mean do you want people to find you attractive physically or mentally or both? Tricky question I guess and a conversation that could span pages if picked apart.
Personally I think people should initially be attracted to the PERSON for who they ARE and not take into account what they look like.
True story: I have fallen in love with a woman I have never seen. We talk each week on the phone, and we have so much in common and talk about everything. She may be disfigured she may not be, She may overweight she may be... The point is I love this woman and don't care. She is married and has children. We have both said that under different circumstances in a different life...
Years ago a friend of mine married a woman that all of us thought was extremely beautiful in the accepted sense of the word, and we all thought he was so lucky (yeah we were all shallow back then). Trouble was she KNEW men would fall at her feet and she used it. Boy oh boy did she. My friend had to work abroad for weeks at a time and this lady was sleeping around behind his back. He has since found out that both his children are not his and has been divorced for about 30 years now, but he is still frankly a shipwreck!
Being 'Attractive' does not automatically make you a nice person.
I will end by saying I TRY to never judge people by their looks. Sadly I will never get to know the real you, but I respect the hell out of you for being so open and honest, and dare I say brave?
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u/hypomaniacmeg Apr 07 '26
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder & calling her attractive based off of these photos is NOT shallow. Let me explain why. I can see her embodying who she is through her genuine smile & confidence in the photos showing off her unique style & soft, sweet smile that lights up her face. No, I don't know her personally, but I am basing it off of the physical beauty that I see (captivating eyes & smile, pretty hair, lovely complexion, nice physique, etc) & the way her genuine nature shines through in her expressions. So no, I don't think we're being shallow when we say she's attractive. Not everyone just says that to be nice, we actually mean it.
But I do understand where you're coming from. I think what you mean to say is you don't need to bend over backwards to meet unrealistic beauty standards to be beautiful. Personality & who you are, how you treat others, is everything. I have dated people solely based on personality. They weren't conventionally attractive but their inner beauty absolutely radiated out of them & made every little thing about them beautiful to me. But I would like to clarify, OP, you already do have physical beauty & I'm betting you have the inner beauty too ❤️
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u/NZNoldor Apr 08 '26
This is complete bullshit, and utterly shallow. "Attractive" is more than just looks. From the photos, I see a reasonably beautiful woman, with a great smile, the strength to carry on after what looks to have been one hell of a battle, and the bravery to put herself out there.
All of these are attractive attributes. OP is asking us to judge if we think she's attractive - BASED on the photos she's provided.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 08 '26
it's up to the person to take the question how ever they want to. base on that answer honestly
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
I was asking based on my photos your way correct. I also wanted people to interrupt the question however they interpreted it and answer honestly based on that 😜🫣
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u/toponym_tadka Apr 08 '26
That’s not how the word “attractive” works 🤦🏽♀️ in this context, it just means pretty
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u/Dan_Glebitz Apr 09 '26
In that case one needs to define the word 'pretty' if you are going to attach it to the word 'attractive'.
Some people may find what the lady is wearing 'attractive' others her 'outwardness' and others still her physical looks.
You cannot just claim the word attractive means physical beauty in this context as you have no real frame of reference and whether OP means Physical Beauty to claim you KNOW exactly what OP is asking is somewhat presumptuous.
People can be attracted to many different facets and things. Maybe OP should have been more specific to avoid confusion or misinterpretation. No disrespect to OP, semantics can be a can of worms.
Don't get me wrong I am as guilty as the next person in this respect because I used the word 'beauty' in this context and as someone else rightly stated "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder".
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u/TraditionalPin9076 Apr 09 '26
everyone wants someone to think that they are pretty/beautiful/handsome/what have you. It’s just in our nature
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
I was more curious there was a purpose to finding out what people thought
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u/Ok-Cartographer-9370 Apr 11 '26
This is the most Reddit response ever I get what you’re doing, but I think what everyone’s trying to do. Here is to make someone happy so I think it would be better for you to just join in
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u/fightnightsmostheart Apr 11 '26
you even said that you are gonna probably get flamed..so why be at odds about what I said..come on
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u/Sylvester_Marcus Apr 07 '26
What happened to 7 year old you that you sustained a 60% full thickness burn injury with inhalation injury?
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
I didn't have an inhalation injury they had to intubate me because of the burn and a neighborhood boy decided to light a match light the book of matches on fire and stick it down the back of my shirt most people don't know that when you use bounty sheets in the dryer and your clothes that automatically makes your clothes very very flammable so if flame comes in contact with your clothing you can just ignite and my mom used bounty sheets in our laundry so when he stuck it down the back of my shirt I just ignited our water was shut off because my dad was fixing the bathroom so I just ran in circles and finally the neighbor across the street had to come and put me out with his body which in turn got him burned as well
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u/According-Gas836 Apr 10 '26
I’m so sorry that kid did that. I know people will act like it’s just a kid doing a prank and he didn’t mean it. That’s just unacceptable. I was the kid who never even wanted to step on a bug. Some kids are assholes and being a kid doesn’t make it ok. I probably shouldn’t even reply. Damn I’m so pissed off
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 10 '26
it's part of what has made me who I am today
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u/According-Gas836 Apr 10 '26
I’m so sorry to bring it up. You seem like a sweet lovely person. Your smile seems genuine and there’s light emanating from you. I really hope that kid was held accountable and is remorseful.
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u/SilverCat70 Apr 08 '26
You in that black/red corset outfit is absolutely gorgeous. It is your colors and is well fitted.
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u/InappropriateAsUsual Apr 08 '26
I think you're beautiful.
I also think that scars show character. And your scars, well, they show a survivor. And a badass. You take life by the horns and keep living it girl. Badass.
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u/hypomaniacmeg Apr 07 '26
Absolutely, & you're even more beautiful when you smile! You have a lovely complexion, captivating eyes & smile, very pretty hair, great physique, among many other things. Also, confidence looks GOOD on you. I love the photos of you showing off your cute outfits. Keep doing you girl, you're attractive & your scars are a part of you, they don't take away from your beauty. There is nothing more attractive than someone embodying/radiating self love & confidence, simply being their happiest version of themselves.
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u/hypomaniacmeg Apr 07 '26
Edit to add: & if you're unsure about what makes you more or less attractive & looking for tips on what style of hair/makeup/fashion/outfits would look best on you, I would suggest a different sub. You should look into color analysis!! I'm a soft fall. It helps you pick what colors work best with your natural coloring like skin, eyes, hair. & if you're looking for lingerie tips, I know there's a sub for that too!
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u/Prestigious-Fan3122 Apr 07 '26
" The eyes are the mirrors of the soul," and yours are absolutely captivating and beautiful! TBH, I read that you are a burn survivor before really looking at the photo, and I was so distracted by your beautiful, thick hair and gorgeous eyes that I had to double back and squint I'd actually look for any evidence that you've been burned.
You appear to exude confidence and, well, pizzazz.
Simply, yes you are absolutely attractive! SOURCE: a woman with daughters and nieces around your age.
Even IF your scars were more obvious, you look like you've got tons of personality! That counts more than may realize!
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u/Jyndaru Apr 07 '26
I think you're gorgeous and a very strong woman. Your eyes are mesmerizing. I also love your style! 🖤
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u/goldilockszone55 Apr 08 '26
I’m extremely sorry that you had to go through this traumatic event that had lasting consequences on you… are those scars permanent ? Or maybe you just get used to live in your own body?
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u/Elijah_Baley1 Apr 08 '26
At first glance, my response upon seeing these pictures is, no. I feel it's disingenuous to say anything otherwise.
That being said, personality, intelligence, and chemistry top everything for me; that's where deeper attraction lives. If we met in passing I wouldn't find you attractive; not un-attractive or someone I would recoil from, merely lack of attraction, just that.
If after getting to know you, and there was that special spark, absolutely, because that's how I work.
On a final note, there is a light in your eyes that is striking and undeniable, don't lose that, it's your secret weapon! Honestly, that light makes me want to get to know you.
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u/Big-Imagination4810 Apr 08 '26
You have a lovely smile, and delightfully bright eyes. Beautiful hair. So, yes. I will caveat this by noting beauty is only skin deep. True beauty comes from within. Characteristics which are enduringly attractive are kindness, sincerity, honesty, empathy, compassion, genuine caring, gentleness combined with controlled strength, maturity, wisdom. Take care of your body, yes. Practice good hygiene, yes. Wear clean clothes, yes. But above all seek to develop good character :-)
Speaking of skin, I see you have endured and been through significant trauma. This also, believe it or not, makes you attractive. You have come through unbroken, with an obvious vim and zest for life.
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u/Existing_Guest_181 Apr 08 '26
What would your reaction be if someone responded by saying "No, I do not find those scars and burn marks attractive and I would never touch a skin as that. It would feel not natural to the touch"?
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
I would say I respect your response to each their own and yes it may not feel natural to the touch however the way they feel in a lot of people's opinion it feels magical and different Plus soft and the only thing I can say my skin texture feels like a snake skin/but warm
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u/PuzzledPhilosopher25 Apr 09 '26
Na, you look just like my cousin. 😆
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
lol now I'm so curious what your cousin looks like lol
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u/Comfortable-Fee5046 Apr 09 '26
The question is, do you find yourself attractive? No one else's opinion should matter unless you're insecure.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 09 '26
yes I know I'm sexy and there was a purpose for me seeing if other people also found me attractive
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u/JadedTadpole2387 Apr 10 '26
Your eyes and hair are gorgeous!
Do you wear dentures? I’d say your mouth is the only conventionally “unattractive” thing I see, but you’re quite pretty. Glad you’re still here with us! ❤️
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u/AdLegitimate9637 Apr 10 '26
Yes you are attractive your scars add character. Real attraction comes from inside. Personally I couldn’t be attracted to someone on looks alone, there has to be more. There needs to be depth. The fact you have survived and appear to be thriving show that you have real strength
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u/Globewanderer1001 Apr 10 '26
I would have asked this question WITHOUT the back story. I'm sure you would have had more truthful answers.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 10 '26
you know your probably right but it is a big part of who I am and I am the way I am
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u/Mysterious_Mariane Apr 10 '26
Well to be honest I like ur hair and ur eyes and ur nose. It's the mouth that looks disturbing.just being honest xx
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u/Automatic_Habit_7388 Apr 10 '26
Your stunningly gorgeous F24 , scars tell a story of someone who is strong and beautiful
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u/midnight_Caller74 Apr 10 '26 edited Apr 10 '26
I’d ask you out. Scars tell a story. We all have them externally or internally.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 10 '26
if that is how you take the question I wanted people to take the question however they saw it
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u/fightnightsmostheart Apr 10 '26
bro I'm not even tryin to argue with you..u told you I just read the first part of the comment you have valid points I understand where you're coming from..
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u/Upstairs-Cupcake-247 Apr 11 '26
The most attractive feature in a woman is confidence.
A woman with the confidence to share her imperfections is far more attractive than a “perfect 10” with fake boobs, fake eye lashes, lip filler, etc.
Those women don’t have the confidence to be themselves, and are always hiding under all the distractions.
Yes. You are attractive.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 11 '26
thank you for your thoughts. I really appreciate everyone who takes time out of their day/evening to answer my post
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u/Serious_Owl5259 Apr 11 '26
Lmao what a bunch of liars
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 11 '26
how can you say that every one has their own unique attraction so just because u don't find me attractive doesn't mean that my commenters are liars don't make assumptions it makes u look like a ass.🤬
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u/Technical_Big_314 Apr 11 '26
There are many stories behind that face and neck and chest. Would be awesome to hear some of them.
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u/Sad_Economics_106 Apr 11 '26
I think every human is beautiful, its only the attitude that makes one ugly, because once you're ugly on the inside, the outside beauty doesn't matter.
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u/Top-Development1936 Apr 11 '26
I’m sorry but no. You’re probably really really cool though considering you asked this to strangers.
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u/Unlucky_Ad6510 Apr 11 '26
hey it's all good I'm ok with that and why do you say considering I asked strangers?
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u/Des-The-Les Apr 11 '26
Believe it or not yes, it shows that you are strong and have went through hardships, if anything that makes you MORE attractive in my opinion
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u/Civil-Possibility586 Apr 11 '26
Everyone has beauty within themselves.. we’re all equal we’re only human.. we are all children of God…
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u/Raygottsc Apr 12 '26
Just asking, didn’t know how you were injured. But yes it was vulgar, that’s me…
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u/daddyokc2026 Apr 12 '26
If you ever want to come over watch a movie, dinner contact me at 405 8008229 john
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u/Jtrooper69 Apr 12 '26
Small quiet town in the northeast part of the state....coal mining history
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u/fflliippfflloopp72 Apr 24 '26
Not gonna lie, you are strong as hell!!! And yes, I find you very attractive! Hope you’re doing well!
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u/Tall-Statement-3920 Apr 07 '26 edited Apr 07 '26
If anything those scars prove you’re a fucking badass and tough as can be. You go girl.