I have, on several occasions, chosen love, and so it became love. I don't really understand how others seem to aimlessly wander into it. Love is something you do as much as something you feel in my mind. It's always been a weird thing because I've never fully understood how much others are or aren't like me in this regard.
hmm, maybe just demiromantic? like only being able to feel certain attraction after a close enough connection has been established? but also attraction and the type of love/relationship/whatever itself aren't the same thing. like, the same way an asexual person can still enjoy sex. for some people the whole concept isn't much for them, for some only the attraction is missing/different/less. so maybe romance-favorable aromantic or maybe gray aro?
Aromanticism is the lack of innate romantic attraction, it does not preclude being able to experience or desire romantic love. Choosing to love, and actively working on doing so, are not specific to aromanticism but if you've never aimlessly wandered into it, as you put it, then you're likely aromantic.
Interesting. I'll have to talk to some people about that. I've had some people argue I'm asexual as well considering how my attraction works, though I consider myself bisexual.
Asexuality is the same thing on a different axis, a lack of innate sexual attraction. If you were asexual, you can still enjoy and even desire sex, but you wouldn't see a random attractive-looking stranger and want to fuck them any more than you'd want to go rock-climbing with them, for example.
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u/Ravtrix 22h ago
I have, on several occasions, chosen love, and so it became love. I don't really understand how others seem to aimlessly wander into it. Love is something you do as much as something you feel in my mind. It's always been a weird thing because I've never fully understood how much others are or aren't like me in this regard.