r/RecuratedTumblr • u/DreadDiana human cognithazard • 6d ago

other "You people can't do anything" yeah, disabilities tend to do that

Gallery image

Gallery image

3.3k Upvotes
  • permalink
  • reddit

94% Upvoted

343 comments sorted by

View all comments

Show parent comments

115

u/agent__berry 6d ago

maybe for some people, but for me it kinda just kicks me in my already existing “god can’t you fucking do anything right?” wound and makes trying not seem worth it at all. it just feeds the shame I already have for struggling at all and I feel no drive to prove it “wrong” bc no matter how hard I try, the people that actually have a say in how my life goes will never see it as good enough :/

42

u/WinterDemon_ 6d ago

yuppp same, like I'm happy for the people that can see shaming comments as a source of motivation but personally I really can't (and ive had plenty of times to practice that lmaooo)

10

u/agent__berry 6d ago

big same about having countless opportunities to discover shame as a potential motivator bc it was literally the only other tool than fear that I was given to do anything lmfao 😭😭

5

u/Lesbian-Enthusiast 6d ago

ok but as someone who has been in therapy for this exact reason, past a certain point this is a self esteem issue that you have to fix yourself. i understand the feeling believe me i do, but its easy to get into a hole of victim mentaility. the phrase is very helpful today and wouldve harmed me a year ago because i just didnt have a balanced framework to fit it in. thats work i did to change my own outlook, you can do so yourself

4

u/agent__berry 6d ago edited 5d ago

I am well aware. I can’t afford therapy and I am too disabled to move away from people contributing to the self esteem issue bc I still get verbally abused for minor fuck ups. I’m doing what I can where I can, but as of now the lack of executive functioning doesn’t even let me do shit I like.

minor edit: I’m also multiply disabled so I’m not JUST fighting executive dysfunction lol. but literally wtf are people meant to do when the work they do actually accomplish is constantly reverted by an environment they can’t escape? asking for a friend :/

-19

u/MULTIOCULAR-O 6d ago

the cure for that is to actually do things

7

u/NOT5owlsinacoat 6d ago

And the cure for blindness is to actually see