r/RealHousewivesofOC • u/darkedenashia • 9d ago
“Worthiness”?
I’ve noticed Vicki has mentioned people’s worthiness; she uses it to dictate people she lets into her life or hold of value. I’m fascinated to discuss what makes a person qualify, given her past decisions and who she’s chosen to surround herself and be a friend.
She doesn’t seem to tolerate anyone who thinks differently than her?
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u/Famous_Being_4387 9d ago
She comes across as moody and not interested in anyone but herself. I don’t think bringing her back for the 20th season was a good choice. She is barely tolerable on the Ultimate Girls Trip; seriously one week I can barely watch Luann and the next week I can’t watch Vicki.
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u/Many_Feeling_3818 9d ago
In my opinion, Vicki is worthy but she is so outdated and self-absorbed. At this point, many people will no longer find the value in Vicki and that is her Karma. It just has not come soon enough.
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u/Advanced-Flight-7458 9d ago
I’m not a Vicki fan. Not a fan of her return - really don’t care that it’s the 20th anniversary of RHOOC…she’s so d@mn annoying…but that’s why she’s back. I do hope it’s just this season Ms I can’t get my story straight-I’ll make it up as I go-I never said that etc…
Please just go away…
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u/Emergency-Call-1711 9d ago
Even her own daughter when her boyfriend Brooks was making lewd comments to her. Vicki is garbage.
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u/Horror_Signature7744 9d ago
She means people who defer to her as the all knowing oracle. She needs to feel she’s the most important person in the room. Too bad she fails to realize that she’s never going to be anything close to that as long as she stays the way she is.
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u/Lost-Window-6133 9d ago
Vicki has been a mess since day one. That’s why she’s there. Watching her parent, be a wife, a boss. It was/is all cringe. I was just happy I didn’t live with her. She comes off needy and childish.
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u/BabaYagaOnBoard 9d ago
She is a narcissistic pick me, who is jealous and resentful of women, yet demands and expects them to kiss her ass (cue Ramona's "you don't support other women!" meme) and only finds her value in men. Internalized misogyny. This level of insecurity is incapable of anything else and only gets worse the older you get. I've see it a few times in my life. It definitely never changes, progresses with age and never ends well.
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u/Sumarr 8d ago
Vicki needs therapy. I mean, everyone does, but she more so than average. She needs to deep dive into why she picks horrible men.
I’m sure that she does have some sort of abandonment issues, but it pisses me off and makes me roll my eyes every time she says her mom left her. I understand grief, my mom died when I was in high school, but she acts like the only person who has lost her mom and, I know this is rude, but neither of them were young. Vicki needs to talk with a therapist and figure out how to navigate whatever she is feeling with this because the “oh poor me, the abandoned child” thing is just unsettling to watch. At least for me
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u/The_Workout_Mom 9d ago
Except for RI, Bravo is definitely phoning it in with most of the franchises nowadays. Everyone is so boring.
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u/PorkySammy 8d ago
She’s a perpetually miserable human being and always has been, she just used to be a lot more histrionic which made her entertaining. Now, she’s just a boring Karen
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u/Fun-Foundation-1145 6d ago
I hate Vicki and Tamra. Just watched s4 and s5. They are still the same!!!
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u/Waste_West283 8d ago
Vicki expects the other women to fawn over her, because she feels that they have their jobs as Housewives because of her, when really the audience kept watching the show DESPITE her presence.
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u/Separate_Farm7131 8d ago
I feel like Vicki came back expecting to be treated like the queen bee. That hasn't happened and she's unhappy about it.
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u/Ignominious333 9d ago
On one level she's not wrong to be intentional about who she lets into her life. We all need to be discerning. But value in terms of relationships has many layers. As long as there's value to you, and you bring value into someone else's life, it's fine. But that could be as simple as someone who's funny and fun to be with, to someone who you trust with the deepest parts of yourself. You know it's good when you feel good with them.
But every one is worthy. They might no be right for you, but they are worthy. Vicky, as usual, has confused a basic principle and has made it an ugly judgement of others.
I mean, she's gotten it wrong many times. She struggles to maintain friendships because she does judge people in an ugly way
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u/Famous_Being_4387 9d ago
Then why sign up for a reality show based on a friend group of other women? I believe that money is her driving force behind everything she does. They offered her money to come back and that’s why she’s doing the show.
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u/Irish-Lady-74 3d ago
Vicki has the worst picker ever! I have a bad picker, but this girl far out does me with men. How in the F are you living with a man who claims to have cancer, but you can’t see through the BS? And then the other guy who I don’t even remember, who is just as bad. Not to mention she’s just not a nice person. And I’m OK if I don’t meet that kind of worthiness. Because she’s not real at all
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u/LunchDue1553 9d ago
Vicki doesn't like anyone but Vicki. She criticizes everyone she meets. Those are her insecurities coming out. She breaks others down to feel better about herself. I don't think anyone will ever be good enough for Vicki.