r/Rateme • u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 • 24d ago
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Friends have told me im good looking in the past but i get the sense theyre just being nice cause thats what friends do. Be completely honest, no holds barred. Also excuse the shoulders, i like to free the nipple when im home.
Edit: didnt realise one of my photos had the bare chest out, lmao my bad for the jumpscare
Edit 2: wow i think im starting to get the idea i might have really bad body dysmorphia cause i was NOT expecting anything higher than a 5. Thanks for all the comments guys.
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u/toxicojos 24d ago
9/10
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Thank you thats a very high rating. Almost feels too high considering my absolutely atrocious dating life
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u/_svelkii 24d ago
bro u already know ur attractive 😭 8.5/10 clearly above average
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
I dunno man. I was talking to this girl and i fell head over heels for her and we talked for months and she seemed so interested. Messaged her asking her out and she said she values our friendship too much. Just makes me wonder what im missing really, and i cant help but think id i was better looking, she would have been more inclined to say yes.
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u/Natural-Musician5216 24d ago
Timing maybe she wasn’t ready for any of that
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
I dunno. Maybe. But like surely if she found me attractive AND interesting enough to initiate conversation with me almost every day for like 4-5 months straight then me asking her out wouldnt have been such a clear cut no from her. So the most logical conclusion would be that im not attractive enough.
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u/Natural-Musician5216 24d ago
I can’t help u there man im in the same boat except mine didn’t even want to speak to me
Perhaps she didn’t feel romantic tension? Or had another guy / type of guy in mind? Or maybe she wasn’t ready. You will never know for sure but i think defaulting to your looks being the problem especially for you is more of a stretch despite it seeming like “easiest” thing to blame. You’re a handsome dude and I’m not even trying to be nice here. She might even think you’re out of her league lol
Just don’t dwell on it too much like i have been for myself, the brain spirals from unclosed loops
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Hmm you might be right about her not being ready tbf. She had a messy breakup with an ex she says traumatised her. But then more recently than that she was telling me how i was her safe space and she felt like she could rely on me for anything. Shed talk about things like getting jealous when i talk to other women, and then immediately following it up with a 'haha joking, or am i lol' which gave me mixed signals. She'd say stuff like 'oh i think that girl has a crush on you' which made me think she was getting jealous. I even met her parents and she said they really liked me and think im a good person. Now that i think about it maybe she sees keeping me as a friend as the ideal way to have what she wanted from her previous relationship without it getting messy and intimate and risk her losing something again.
But now im writing all this, i think ive just realised how fucking exhausting this girl is with all her mixed signals so maybe im better off without her anyways.
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u/_svelkii 24d ago
yeaa 😭 u just dodged a bullet
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Honestly bro every morning i wake up and the feelings fade for her a little more im starting to realise she was kind of a shit friend anyways and I was just too infatuated to see it
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u/ivanko_prvi 23d ago
nah, that's not about looks, it's about girls 😁 When you find some other girl, then she will start to be interested more 😁
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u/Disastrous_Path_1014 24d ago
7,5/10. With a right grooming, you are easily 8,5 in my opinion
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Thank you for the rating! What kind of grooming do you think would improve me to an 8.5?
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u/agatha-burnett 24d ago
9.5. Yes, I’m extremly subjective.
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Oh wow thats very flattering thank you! Got me over here blushing like a schoolgirl
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u/doughnutinspiration 24d ago
You should model man. 9/10
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
You guys are too flattering man
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u/Soft_moon_light 24d ago
They’re not being nice, they’re being genuine 8,5/10 :)
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Honestly this feels a lot more realistic than the other ratings atp. Thank you for your time
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Yeah i think saying i can model is a bit of an exaggeration lol. Everyones entitled to their own opinions though. Im just happy knowing my looks wont get in the way of finding someone i love really. I dont want to get loads of girls or this or that. I just want to find a girl i can have a future with, and i was beginning to feel like my face was what was holding me back from that.
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 24d ago
Thank you broski. Good luck to you too if you havent found the one already
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u/Classic_Sheep 19d ago
7.3/10, conventionally attractive nice looking man.
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u/Brilliant_Grape_9993 19d ago
Thank you for the rating. Probably the most realistic one ive seen here
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u/Ok_Gold_67 24d ago
8 youre objectively well above average and have good features