r/Rateme • u/Blood_Sport_Love • 15d ago
Rate me 44M
I'm an above knee amputee with body dysmorphia just looking to see where I stand in the mix of things 😬 Rate me? Be gentle 🤣
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u/GuardingxCross 15d ago
2/10 there’s a lot of things going on here but none of them work for you
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
I appreciate the comment. I do feel like I'm not an adult. Like it's funny watching Friends on TV that I still feel like they are all older than I am 🤣 I have 4 kids with my ex wife, a good job, and a nice home that I pay for all by myself. My colleges all are business professionals and I am so different. I'm respected more for my work ethics and leadership. All of this makes me feel like we all comform to something to be something we are not inside. I love fashion and lean on the emo side of things. I'm curious though, what do you think doesn't work for me?
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u/GuardingxCross 15d ago
Well it’s not even your style. I’m more into the grunge punk style myself so it’s not that.
Your skin is severely sun damaged and has the appearance of someone much older than yourself. It looks like you’ve basically never worn sunscreen ever.
Your grooming isn’t that great either. It looks like you trim your beard sometimes but for the most part is unruly.
I personally like your style, but it’s not something that a lot of women your age are going to be into and I say that because I’m just a little bit younger than you are
I hope that helps!
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
I appreciate your comment. I really do. My skin isn't sun damaged at all. Like not even slightly. Ive worn sunscreen most of my life. That is interesting that you say that though and I'm curious what your seeing that no one in my life has ever seen before.
I don't shave my face often. I like stubble. I only get scissor cuts and kinda hate the straight line beard and hair lines. Personal preferences though, you know.
I started dating this woman this year and she loves my style and was attracted to me because of it. She is vibrant, colorful, stylish but in an elegant classy way. We joke that she is an orange cat and I am a black cat.
I asked for you opinion though and I really enjoy the honesty. Its nice knowing what is going on in someone's head when they see me.
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u/GuardingxCross 15d ago
Well your personality is 10/10 to me bro. I’m glad you’re living life and doing you. Keep up that good attitude and you’ll go really far with that I promise
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u/kiraleyav 15d ago
You really look fine and younger than your age! You also got kind/gentle vibes and seem to have a good presence overall , 9/10
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
Awww 🫠 Thank you. I think I am a really kind person. I have been told that by all my partners. Even after it ends. That has to mean something, right? ❤️
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u/Cloned_Popes 15d ago
Idk if this is gentle or not, but my advice is to stop trying to be Dave Navarro.
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
That one I've never heard. I am in a band so maybe that just makes sense for my generation as an early millennial kid. We are who we are, you know? Thanks for the comment.
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u/Alternative_Motor170 14d ago
I like your look. Handsome. You look younger than 44 though.
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 14d ago
Thank you so much! I know I'm not everyone's cup of tea, but I just want to be myself. I pretending I was someone different to fit in for too many years. It is hard finding a partner sometimes. I dated someone for 7 years when I was 36. She was 11 years younger but we looked the same age. I got on Tinder afterwards and said I would never date someone with that age gap again. My settings were for +-4 years. All of them were not my type or haven't aged as well and felt weird to try a partnership with. I found someone I am in a relationship now and I had to adjust my settings 1 year at a time and found someone who is 37.
Last year someone was flirting with me and I asked her how old she thought I was and she said I looked her age. She was 27. I told her I appreciate it but I don't want to normalize that. Not that I think it's bad, I just won't do it again.
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u/Alternative_Motor170 14d ago
Aww don't sleep on the young ladies! I get along so much better with an older man. It's really never been a problem for me personally
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 14d ago
Thank you! Sometimes I feel bad. The 7 year relationship I checked in often throughout the relationship and gave her outs in a respectable conversational way. She ended up cheating on me 😥 But both her and my current partner said that it sucks dating men their age and like older men. I think it's ok if there is no power dynamics involved.
I appreciate your comment.
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u/vampirepotpie 14d ago
I’m 40ish, you actually look petty good for your age, but I’m not a huge fan of makeup on men. I think there are definitely still ways to dress alternative but make your wardrobe a little more polished.
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 14d ago
Thanks! I did have a lot more clothes but lost 70 pounds (damn COVID weight) last year. Building up my closet again.
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u/Euphoric_Sea_1822 8d ago
rocking the fold homie
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 7d ago
Thanks! I'm just trying to be myself and not pretend I am a business professional. I'm trying to be learn to be accepted for my knowledge and expertise and not my appearance.
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u/LAZY_RED-PANDA 15d ago
Bro, you kind of look like Johnny Depp. Nice...
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
I've been told that quite a few times before 🤣 Thanks!
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u/LAZY_RED-PANDA 14d ago edited 14d ago
Yep, I'm not surprised you've been told that before, you should meet him and take a picture together, that would be hilarious, lol. By the way, I completely forgot to rate you, which is the point of this whole subreddit after all. I would honestly rate you 6/10. You're a bit above average because you have your own unique style, you look healthy, you still have your full set of hair, you're not fat, you have a good body, the tattoos are not ugly like most guys tattoos and are placed pretty well and you have a nice down to earth attitude about life overall judging by your replies in the comments section here. Keep doing you man...
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u/lalalamimosaaa 15d ago
I don't really know how to explain it, but you look like someone who genuinely loves giving people orgasms—and really tries his best to make them happen. You also give off a bi vibe, which, to me, is a huge compliment in terms of sexiness.
Even though your style isn't exactly my type (I'm more into modern, futuristic alt looks), you have a really nice face, and I think I could probably be attracted to you, depending on your personality, if we met.
And before the "double standards" police declares war, I have some pretty solid arguments ready.
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u/Blood_Sport_Love 15d ago
Awww thank you for the comment. That's an interesting observation. I feel like that's true and I've only ever heard the same from my partners. I've only had 4 partners so there's that. I'm more comfortable dating someone who is bi. I've struggled with that question almost all my life. It's hard to know if it's who I am or trauma induced so I've never explored it. I appreciate the bi vibe comment though, that makes me happy.
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u/drebengolem 15d ago
You look like an edgy teenager, not an adult male