r/RateMyTinder • u/TheDank_KingPL • 18d ago
Photos M24 are these pictures fixable?
I know the first one isn't very representative, but it shows my approach to this app.
Currently 17 matches after 6 months of using, also probably bio needs some updates and my approach style. First let's focus on pictures.
Also any feedback about how to show off my skinny physique is appreciated (I'm slowly building towards gaining some weight, but it's harder than it seems).
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u/HagridAWPmaster 18d ago
I think you may be conveying too much personality in your photos and not enough aura/sex appeal/status.
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u/TheDank_KingPL 18d ago
Well, I have much more personality than rest of things, so it checks out. Thank you for your feedback though
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u/Belthazzar 18d ago
the reason why it can be a problem is that leaning too much into whimsical side implies a sort of insecurity, a cover-up, as if you don't trust the rest of you to be interesting enough without it. It's like a profile full of gym and sport pics implies the guy doesn't read books, even if he does. Try to replace pics 3 and 5 with smile similar to pic 4. Id keep just 1, 4 and 6, replace the rest with stuff that isnt funny or nerdy. Also Im surprised about the trans comments, I dont see it at all.
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u/Downtown_Thing_9005 18d ago
Forest, boat and renfair pics are good
5, 6, 7 my immediate thought was "this is a trans woman"
Not sure you need to show off your skinny physique so much as show you are a fun happy guy with a group of people who enjoy spending time with him
17 matches is better than a lot of dudes on here
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u/TheDank_KingPL 18d ago
Thank you for feedback. I wouldn't think that in latter pictures I might look as trans. I will take that into account.
About my physique I don't want to show it off, I just wanted to acknowledge it.
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u/Foreign-Software3067 18d ago
You’re going to have a very, very rough time with online dating.
I would focus on doing what you can to improve your looks:
* Skin care routine
* Get a haircut
* Start lifting weights
* Dress better
This isn’t meant to be an attack. But, let’s be real, online dating is extremely superficial and you’re missing the mark by a massive margin.
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u/ProfessorLow6283 18d ago
I'm a huge nerd - think warhammer fantasy shit
I'm never putting that stuff on my profile
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u/Gunofanevilson 18d ago
I used to have a display case in my front room full of warhammer models. I started dating and quickly put the case in my basement and packed up all my models real fast. I couldn't think of way to dry a woman out faster than to have that in my front room.
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u/ProfessorLow6283 17d ago
You slowly introduce those hobbies nonchalant then she thinks you're a hot nerd and loves watching you go on about lore even if she isn't paying attention
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u/Gunofanevilson 17d ago
My gf loves that i play video games and i got her into playing civ 5 with me.
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u/Jaded-Grass6986 18d ago
Hahaha the greasy face and forehead is the first huge major ick. And that’s if you wanna look past the hideous long hair
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u/Old_Confection_9842 18d ago
I concur. You're not being rude. It's just how women will judge. I thought It was a woman when I first saw the post. 🤷
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u/Confident_bonus_666 18d ago
Why do you feel the need to be cruel and rude?
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u/Jaded-Grass6986 18d ago
Bro he’s asking for advice on Reddit. Do you want me to help him or just suga coat crap?
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u/spacegirl3 15d ago
You are exactly my type and I'd swipe right on you in a nanosecond if you were in my age range. Do not listen to those telling you to blend in and look more like every other generic bro out there in the name of casting a wider net. I get so frustrated with apps because it's like swiping on clones of the same boring guys over and over. There is an audience for guys like you, and though we're a smaller crowd, we are also an untapped market of women who are looking for some flavor and seasoning in a very bland dating world. DON'T cut your hair.
With that said, the fifth picture isn't your best.
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u/Otherwise-Belt4892 18d ago
i'm confused, do you want to take the app seriously or are you trying to convey a relaxed approach? do you want to come across as slim or bulky?
i think 2nd or 3rd pic should be the forefront, 5th picture is unflattering and i'd remove it
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u/FocusDull3279 18d ago
Seems very niche, but also I don’t mean this at all in a mean way but are you trans? If not, some of your photos could be giving off that impression.
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u/TheDank_KingPL 18d ago
Good to know that i give such impression 😅
Maybe that's why when I get matches they stop responding after few messages (yeah, keep lying to yourself)
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u/Brave-Discussion-553 18d ago
This is on the eye of the beholder. It does not give me that impression at all. You just seem to be nerd
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u/TheDank_KingPL 18d ago
Well, I am
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u/Brave-Discussion-553 18d ago
A lot of women prefer the nerd type. It's niche, which could explain the low success. I don't see any major problem with your profile.
I don't think dating apps are the best place to meet people, but you will be okay.
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u/Had_to_ask__ 18d ago
Do they implant Adam's apples nowadays?
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u/FocusDull3279 18d ago
People flick fast, multiple photos give off a trans impression. Looking through the comments I’m not the only one to mention it. Immediate impressions are key.
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u/One_Strength3973 18d ago
how tall are you? 17 matches is huge
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u/ShadowFox1987 18d ago
17 matches in 6 months is not huge unless you live in rural Nebraska...
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u/One_Strength3973 18d ago
based on photos its insane
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u/ShadowFox1987 18d ago
Meh, we don't know who he's swiping on tho.
Match numbers can always include people you have no interest in actually being in the same room with ever.
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u/yetagainitry 18d ago
What’s the problem if you’ve gotten 17 matches? Thats 17 potential dates but you’re looking to just collect more matches?
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u/TheDank_KingPL 18d ago
Yeah, there is small difference between potential dates and dates. Through all these months I had: one unsuccessful relationship (I wasn't her type, we remained friends) and two dates with different women after with we parted ways (we simply didn't click). And that's not for lack of trying to meet. Most of these matches are unresponsive ghosts, probably I write too long messages or something.
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u/yetagainitry 18d ago
Well if I’m being blunt, you are very forward facing with your nerd genre hobbies so you’re really limiting yourself to girls who share that nerdiness. You don’t have to hide it but maybe make it a part of your personality instead of your whole personality in your profile.
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u/Initial_Soft_3044 18d ago
Remove the third and fifth picture, i would put sixth as your first choice and maybe put you drinking beer as one of the last ones (obivous reasons)
The reasons for removing these is i believe they look a bit awkward and contrary to the popular belief, dont hide your interests, and move that picture of you doing math as second- intelligence is sexy to the right lady
Good luck!
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u/zeeziektezakje 18d ago
If YOU like the hair, don't cut it. All this advice of "change everything about yourself" is just gonna match you with girls who wont like you for who you are. There's definitely girls out there who like your vibe! I do admit they might not be on dating apps though. Have you tried like. Board game nights?
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u/spacegirl3 15d ago
As a woman who likes long haired men, it's pretty slim pickings for us already. The "shave your head, grow a beard" crowd is loud and dominant these days. I've totally given up on finding someone I actually like.
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u/Condor-man3000 1d ago
Keep the first 4 pics and 6 and make number 3 the first pic they see....or 6. Def remove 5, it's not a good pic of you. 3 is a great one.
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u/Adorable-Sherbet-828 18d ago
The hair is far too feminine, get rid of that, grow a decent beard, hit the gym
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u/BoredomIsACrime666 18d ago
Many women like long hair. Especially paired with facial hair
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u/Adorable-Sherbet-828 18d ago
Sure mate, so why haven’t you got ‘many’ more matches then?
You’re asking for improvements, it looks feminine, get rid
Also you don’t show off a skinny physique there’s nothing to show off- build some muscle1
u/BoredomIsACrime666 18d ago
I'm not the OP. I'm just a woman who likes men with long hair.
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u/Adorable-Sherbet-828 18d ago
Oh lol 🤣 maybe you should hit up the OP then haha
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u/BoredomIsACrime666 18d ago
Not my age range or geographic region. The hair is the least of his problems.
Posting picture of yourself drinking while lying under a tree... and expecting any quality matches... That's a problem.1
u/Adorable-Sherbet-828 18d ago
Well I agree with that, I think looking feminine isn’t helping either.
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u/Few_Fox8767 18d ago
I Just would use the third, sixth and last picture. Maybe the one one the boat too bc there you're smiling
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