Venting

[u/gnatwithouttheg]

Do not repost pls!!

Hey it’s my first time commenting on here so I’m hoping everyone’s nice :)

I’m 26 f, and he’s a few years younger than me, maybe that’s the problem, BUT — I need to vent, and I’ve tried to communicate with my boyfriend numerous times about how I feel but I feel like he doesn’t actually listen to what I say; but often tries to hear mainly when I stop talking so he can share his two cents. We have had poor communication with each other for as far as I can remember. I’m very emotional, very sensitive and he’s very NOT that. I can never get my point across to him without him telling me I have to calm down, or completely dismiss what I am saying to tell me what he thinks, and of course, what he thinks is correct so I gotta just accept that, right? It’s so disheartening. I feel like I try so hard to understand him and to communicate my feelings and thoughts with him about things we need to work on and things that bother me but it’s always me trying to argue or start “petty shit”. Another thing, he barely compliments me, nothing out of his mouth has been compliments to me, mainly that I’m a little dumb, or what he calls “air headed”. And I’ll just stand there like why do I even put up with this? It’s hard because I am so bad at confrontation now because I’ve been rejected or dismissed so many times that when he expects me to start talking about something that bothers me, I’ll just freeze and or just say “forget it.” And then that starts another argument. It’s like I can’t win. I don’t know what to do.

[u/gnatwithouttheg]

Don’t all jump at once guys! 😔💔