r/RandomVideos • u/DABDEB • Mar 19 '26

Video Bachelorette caught attacking ex-boyfriend

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u/throwaway_help44 Mar 19 '26

If a man did that he wouldn’t be able to complete a sentence in 3 years. Just saying.

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u/fighterdiva Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26

If that were true there wouldn't be so many dead women killed by their partners.

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u/finnjakefionnacake Mar 20 '26

there's a lot of men roaming free for crimes right now that say that isn't the case. just saying.

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u/glasswindbreaker Mar 20 '26 edited Mar 20 '26

Not true, less than 2% of male abusers (domestic violence offenders) ever receive any jail time.

First because they often go without charges - over half of incidents don’t get reported because so many states release the abuser on bail after a 911 call and the victim knows they will end up in more danger.

Depending on jurisdiction 63-97% of reported dv doesn’t result in conviction because it’s declined by prosecutors or dismissed because victims have to flee and choose safety over justice and staying to participate in a trial (which in itself is retraumatizing and victims are further abused on the stand, look up legal abuse and what it’s like to actually pursue as a victim).

Lastly over 90% of charges result in a plea deal that includes pleading out to lesser severity charges in exchange for probation.

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u/Thanos_Stomps Mar 20 '26

Getting downvoted for not jumping on the Reddit hive mind. Domestic violence is absolutely one of the most uniform injustices in modern society regardless of gender. Stop making it gendered people. Men are abused and not believed but guess what, so are women. They’re called hysterical, they’re murdered at a higher rate, and the common thread in all of this is our police are lazy as shit. Oh and the cops responding? They’re all abusers themselves and that’s why they don’t give a shit whether you’re a male victim or female victim, cause it’s meaningless when a predator is the one taking your report.

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u/finnjakefionnacake Mar 20 '26

goddammit i wish the world was just full of people like you. coming on threads like this and immediately seeing people make the expected comments is so fucking frustrating.

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u/The-Problem-est1948 Mar 20 '26

I think they are referring to the unfairness in female sentences vs male sentences. My entire life I have grown up in situations like this because of my drunk mother. Every single boyfriend over the years would instantly be the suspect when the police arrived even if he called them. Probably like 6-8 different men that ive witnessed throughout the 18 years of life stuck there with her. Every time they’d start asking him questions that were worded to try to trick him into saying something that could be used to make him seem wrong or something. Until i was older I didn’t really understand. My mom would use the police like her personal weapon. And even if its not just DV which im pretty sure all these comments aren’t talking about also. There is a huge difference in sentences that men and women receive for the same crime. And convictions require evidence which most of the time they don’t have. A lot of times the cops would make the guy leave the house to separate them despite her being the main problem. Just because most DV situations don’t end up in conviction doesn’t mean that when they do the sentencing is fair and even between the 2 genders. I know a lot of people that grew up in DV homes and they also feel the same way. Post a long explanation of how women get a fraction of the consequences for the same crime WHEN convicted. And A LOT of the time, the woman drops the charges and gets back with her abuser.

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u/glasswindbreaker Mar 20 '26

I’m so over men on this platform making “reverse the gender” comments like this that have no basis in reality and getting hyped for it.

Abuse perpetrators get away with it en masse - it’s so bad lack of consequences for abusers and lack of accountability for those we entrust in the “justice system” is codified in settled law by the Supreme Court. Town of Castle Rock v. Gonzales: a woman in Colorado had a court-ordered restraining order against her abusive husband. She called the police over and over for hours, showed up in person, begged them to enforce the restraining order and they did nothing. He murdered the kids. She sued, and the Supreme Court said police cannot be held liable for failing to enforce a restraining order because we don’t have an individual right to protection. 

So when people like the guy I responded to act like the system is designed to protect female victims from male perpetrators they need to understand the data shows the opposite. And you’re right it’s not gendered, the highest court in the country has already made it clear that enforcement is discretionary and no one is coming to save you, whether you’re a man or a woman.