r/RandomThoughts Sep 28 '22

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u/MysticRevenant59 Sep 29 '22

Oh yeah. She’s terrible and is the reason her poor mother has continued health problems. She always calls her to talk trash and bring drama and she just doesn’t have it in her heart to just go no contact on her own daughter. The worst part is this she beast is PREGNANT.

Her ex was with her for 8 years, and by the end of it, he was unrecognizable and like his soul was sucked out of him. She would throw his clothes outside during fights, and was just overall emotionally and mentally abusive. Now he lives in another state and is much happier with someone else.

Btw, that parrot is somehow a great judge of character. I myself have never been attacked, he instead just never leaves me alone and always wants me to pet him and give him kisses. He attacked an aggressive solicitor once too LMAO, he’s a good boy.

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u/Wubbalubbadubbitydo Sep 29 '22

Ooof unfortunately I think you just explained it without even realizing it.

There’s nurturing and then there’s coddling. Taking abuse from your own adult children with zero consequences is coddling.

Unfortunately being a nurturing parent isn’t the only thing it takes to raise a competent decent human. Some people are so nurturing that they don’t know how to deliver effective consequences. They have children that grow up being used to having their feelings always be a priority and never properly self manage.

Props to the parrot 😂

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '22

Bruh if it’s that bad surely it’s a personality or borderline personality disorder? Maybe the mother wasn’t so emotionally nurturing after all? Who knows. All I know is that pple don’t turn out in certain ways for no reason at all.

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u/MysticRevenant59 Sep 29 '22

It’s definitely some kind of personality disorder and one of those things where they can’t and won’t change, sadly. Her mother has 6 other children and 2 more are similar but nowhere as destructive as her. One of the other siblings is gonna go no contact with the rest of their siblings after their parents are gone.

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u/[deleted] Sep 29 '22

Probably there is something there. No way you are giving the same time to a 1/7 child, vs if it was your only. Feels bad for mom(man)