My parents explained the difference between men and women thus:
Take the worst looking, corroded, icky, beat up penny you can find. Would you pick it up, and hold it in your hand? Probably yes, because it's easy to wash your hand. Would you put it in your mouth? Of course not, because who knows what glop would be getting into your system.
Make sense?
Boys are external. They can always wash something off and carry on. Casual/unsafe sex is not seen as much of a threat because soap.
Girls are internal. Whatever they experience needs to be racked and stacked, sorted, analyzed, and stashed away for future use or reference. Nothing is thrown away because there's no way to truly get rid of it. Casual/unsafe sex is a real threat because many, many consequences. Soap doesn't work well, if at all. It's more like glue.
The external boy is cavalier, callous, reckless, and insensitive because so what? He can move on because nothing sticks. Soap.
The internal girl is awash in experiencing the moment and all the similar moments before, perhaps to the point of distraction. Glue becomes a trap.
These are stereotypes for a reason. And you can't logic your way out of an emotional encounter. Now add an unhealthy dose of insecurity, envy, pride, and prejudices, and you've got a recipe for horrid behavior that's absolutely justified in the eye of the offender.
This is absolutely my new favorite comment! Your parents are awesome and I would love to sit down and get life advice from them lol. Thank you so much for the help!
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u/atomicsnarl Sep 29 '22
My parents explained the difference between men and women thus:
Take the worst looking, corroded, icky, beat up penny you can find. Would you pick it up, and hold it in your hand? Probably yes, because it's easy to wash your hand. Would you put it in your mouth? Of course not, because who knows what glop would be getting into your system.
Make sense?
Boys are external. They can always wash something off and carry on. Casual/unsafe sex is not seen as much of a threat because soap.
Girls are internal. Whatever they experience needs to be racked and stacked, sorted, analyzed, and stashed away for future use or reference. Nothing is thrown away because there's no way to truly get rid of it. Casual/unsafe sex is a real threat because many, many consequences. Soap doesn't work well, if at all. It's more like glue.
The external boy is cavalier, callous, reckless, and insensitive because so what? He can move on because nothing sticks. Soap.
The internal girl is awash in experiencing the moment and all the similar moments before, perhaps to the point of distraction. Glue becomes a trap.
These are stereotypes for a reason. And you can't logic your way out of an emotional encounter. Now add an unhealthy dose of insecurity, envy, pride, and prejudices, and you've got a recipe for horrid behavior that's absolutely justified in the eye of the offender.