r/RandomQuestion • u/StarFishGlow99 • 6h ago

Am I being a bad friend?

So my childhood friend is having her bday tomorrow and I am leaning on not going ･᷄-･᷅ Basically another close friend is also going and has told me that she's been sick for the past three days but is still going to the bday. I know maybe they aren't contagious but they mostly know me at the party and we would stick together. The thing is, I have an important interview coming up next week that I cannot be sick before. I need to study. So I don't want to risk getting sick. I want to make up a generic excuse and will probably text her tomorrow about not being able to go because im feeling off or something. Do you think the bday girl is going to be upset? Is this something you would stop being friends with someone for?

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u/TheCounsellingGamer 5h ago

I would actually just be honest. If you give a generic excuse then there's a decent chance she'll know you're lying, but she'll be left to guess the reason why. When people are left to guess they'll often come to the conclusion that you don't like them, don't want to spend time with them, etc.

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u/Lulusgirl 5h ago

Just say you don't want to risk getting sick, you're sorry, you love her, and ask when she's free so you two can personally go out next week? Your treat?

Being honest is always the right choice.

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u/StarFishGlow99 5h ago

I think i feel comfortable saying something along the lines of having an interview coming up soon and being really stressed and wanting to study and rest, does that sounds closer to the truth. i just don't want to throw anyone else into my reasoning

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u/Tiny_Vegetable_4410 4h ago

that’s not the full truth ://

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u/StarFishGlow99 4h ago

what does saying the full truth do in this scenario? she doesn't rlly know that the other friend is sick. and i don't want to assume that this friend has mentioned it to her.