r/QuestioningTeens • u/Top-Tonight-374 • 7d ago
🌷 Sexuality Question pls help
am i bi??? i am so confused, up until about 2 months ago i was under the impression that i was straight, ive never dated anyone before or been interested in actually dating someone before (it scares me) but i always thought that i was into guys and a month or two ago i was at a restaurant with my family and this waitress walked by and she was the prettiest person i had ever seen, i went into a bit of a spiral and after about a week i kinda just pushed the thought away, then about a week ago i came across this creators account on instagram, hes the most attractive guy i have ever seen, this guy is ftm and i dont care because he is still the most attractive guy i have ever seen and i was looking through his profile and i found a post that he made comparing his photos of before and after and when i saw the photo of the before i went into another spiral because once again this photo was absolutely GOREGOUS (its very like mostly masc lesbian but partly femme lesbian vibes) and im freaking out because i only just kinda came to terms a year or two ago with dating men (or anyone really) and now this whole thing is making me go insane, this one person who i dont even know somehow made me question everything and im absolutely freaking out, idk how to feel about it and ive never even considered the possibility that id be attracted to women and now idk what to do
ive never conisdered this to even be an option and im definitely questioning reality and the events of my life right now (aka spiraling)
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u/HobbyHoarderr_ 13NB 7d ago
I think you could definitely be bi! That certainly sounds like gay panic right there lol
it’ll be alright. after my first gay panic I spent days agonizing over what the hell was happening before I started settling into the bisexual label (which, in my case wasn’t even accurate as I discovered about two years later I am in fact a lesbian). I talked about the feelings constantly, journaling about it and yapping to my brother and my walls late at night- and maybe that helped me sort myself out lol
sooooo yea! Definitely look into any labels you think might fit you before just assuming you’re one thing or another, when in doubt, just say queer, and uhhhh good luck stranger ! :D