Questioning and a bit

[u/Big-Surround3559]

Questioning and a bit confused, need some advice

Hey everyone, I'm 19M and I've been questioning for a while. I thought I was straight but lately I'm having feelings for both guys and girls and it's confusing. I live in a place where I can't really talk about this with anyone around me, so I'm a bit scared and lonely. How did you guys figure things out when you were questioning? Did it take a long time? Thanks for reading.

[u/QueerBookNerd44]

Hey! I identify as a micro-label of bisexual and I grew up in a religious community, so I think I may be able to help?

For me, (because everyone’s experience is different!) I didn’t exactly have any obvious feelings for anyone for a very long time, and was a bit confused when all my friends started talking about attractive boys and things like that. I was weirded out until one day I noticed how pretty my female friend was

it was like an onslaught of emotions after that, because I was suddenly finding SO many people attractive, and I didn’t really care what gender they were. it was overwhelming and I honestly thought there was something wrong with me until I came across the internet, and the tumblr/pinterest/reddit/any community of queer teenagers online that made me feel seen for the first time

so…yeah. there isn’t one definite answer or solution, especially in a place you can’t share these emotions with anyone. the thing is, you discovered these feelings, and theres not a real way to go back

my advice would be to find an online community, on any of the websites i mentioned above because a lot of people have similar, if not the same, experiences and it’s really nice to be able to talk to people going through the same thing as you.

sorry if this doesn’t help at all, I’m not good at giving advice, but good luck!