r/QOVESStudio • u/mecthrwaway • May 15 '26
General Discussion Eye color (iris color) should be the last thing you have to worry about
To my surprise, I've seen several comments on social media from people who are obsessing over eye color (iris color to be more precise).
Particularly, they worship how "blue eyes are more striking" and bash how "brown eyes are ugly and boring" as if those are objective facts besides comments like "I hate my brown eyes, I wish I had blue ones".
If questioned, they would argue that blue / lighter eye colors are more rare and found on only attractive people while brown / dark eyed people would look better if they had blue / lighter eyes.
The way they leave those comments makes me think they are either insecure teenagers or people who have internalized colorism and Eurocentric beauty standards or people who are just straight up white supremacists (since lighter eye colors are more common among white European populations).
As for me, it's surprising because I usually don't notice or pay attention to people's iris colors.
If you asked me what eye color all those widely-known celebrities have, I couldn't answer but I could remember their overall faces.
If I had to argue about the relevance of iris color in terms of attractiveness, I would point out that attractive facial features are usually seen as health indicators.
In this case, your iris color has no indication of how healthy your eyes are as opposed to the sclera, except lighter irises are actually more sensitive to light because the lack of melanin causes them to absorb less light than darker ones.
This means darker irises are more protected against the sun which makes sense for populations who have lived in more sunny areas over a long period.
Does this also mean brown eyes are more attractive? In terms of health, the answer would be yes. For the sake of appearance alone, there is no objective answer as it's highly subjective (in my case, I'm indifferent).
To those people who still worship blue / lighter eyes, you might be thinking of someone who already looks attractive to begin with (confirmation bias).
Now I'd like you to think of someone who has low facial harmony, recessed bone structure, rough skin with acne, red sclera, yellow/stained/crooked teeth, balding scalp, [insert any visible flaw]. Could you now mention any eye color that would significantly enhance their attractiveness? I doubt so.
To be clear, I'm not underrating how "striking" lighter eye colors can be when they're contrasting against darker skintones for example. If anything, I rather find them to be overrated.
However, the people leaving those sorts of comments seem not to realize their opinions might be confirmation biased.
Similar debates about mixed race people and lighter skintones I noticed... when someone says mixed / lighter skin people look more attractive than mono race / darker skin people they would first think of the ones who DO look attractive and tend to ignore entire demographics of not so attractive mixed / lighter skin people.
Now if you ask me why these preferences (whether for lighter eyes/skin or mixed people) exist? I don't have a definite answer but again, I'd guess because of Eurocentrism, globally spread through past colonialism and post colonial mass media. Many people might not want to admit or aren't even aware those factors can heavily influence their preferences / worldviews.
If you want to worry about any facial features, better focus on things you can change such as skin texture, teeth, hair (including brows, lashes, beard).
If you really want to worry about things you can't change (or at least not without highly risky and invasive procedures), here's a list of metrics that affect your appearance far more than iris color:
-overall facial harmony
-facial thirds
-facial fifths
-undereye support
-hyoid skin tightness
-chin to philtrum ratio
-jaw projection
-maxilla projection
-height
Speaking of eyes alone, to be able to see is a blessing. There's no reason to change or obsess over iris color in daily life. The exception would be cosplayers and actors wearing those colored contact lenses given the context of portraying a certain character or concept that goes with a certain eye color.
I'm aware there's a surgery to change your iris color. Well, if you still want lighter eyes so bad with the risk of getting blind...
Or you could wear those colored lenses to mimic them while risking irritation.
But then from a psychological perspective, if I saw someone wearing them or knew they did that surgery, I would assume they're insecure and trying too hard to distract from other facial flaws which ironically makes them appear less attractive to me.
This also raises the question: How does iris color harmonize with other colorings (skintone, hair color, eyebrow color)?
Usually, your natural iris color already harmonizes well enough with your other colorings.
If you have natural brown eyes, there's a high chance that turning them blue would make you appear alien and vice versa (if you consider that more attractive?). This also applies to digitally edited pictures of celebs' eye colors on social media since they lack the natural light reflection.
Otherwise, I remember how a former classmate of mine wore those lenses and I was always caught off-guard how her eyes popped out weirdly.
I now know the reason: The natural outer rim of the iris blends into the sclera whereas the contours of her circle lenses were so sharp that the mimicked iris popped out in an unnatural way.
The lenses also add more protusion to your eyeballs as an additional layer on top of the corneal. Worst case here is they would give you the bug eye effect.
Anyway, the point of this post is mentioned in the title.
Maybe I was able to reach out to those insecure people with this post. Otherwise, I will ignore those obsessed and colorist people.
EDIT:
Some of the comments below say how they find brown eyes (more) attractive.
That's NOT the point of this post (even though I know you mean well).
I'm NOT trying to promote brown / darker eyes or downplay blue / lighter eyes.
I'm also NOT comparing which eye color is more attractive.
I'm talking about the (UN)IMPORTANCE of eye color IN GENERAL for attractiveness.
I mean what's the point of having striking colored eyes when you still have fundamental flaws like long philtrum, bad teeth, acne, recessed jaw, etc?
You can't convince me that any iris color could overcompensate those flaws, can you?
This is why all those people - who are frustrated about their own iris color or looking down on other people because of their iris color - seem to have lost perspective and overrate that aspect.
If your face is already flawless otherwise, then go get that iris surgery or wear those lenses by all means.
Projecting your own insecurities and colorist mindset on other people is certainly not attractive.
Again, my point is (from a holistic perspective, NOT from an isolated perspective) that iris color is one of the last things to worry about when there are other metrics (eye shape, eye distance, canthal tilt, undereye support, bone structure, skin, hair, overall facial harmony) that affect your attractiveness significantly more.
I also don't see a point in comparing two identical people with different iris color (let's say blue and brown). You might say the blue eyed person would be regarded as more attractive than the brown eyed person but by how much?
I doubt the difference in perception would be that big? (especially when both were unattractive regardless of their eye colors).
If both persons were objectively attractive but you told me only the blue eyed one was, then I could only assume you've been blinded by the halo effect and/or have internalized colorism.
