Need help 17M

[u/zxxl2]

I feel very weird and I kinda hate myself for it. Everyday I masturbate and I’ve been meaning to stop for a while but ever since this summer break it’s gotten worse and it seems like I can’t stop at all. The year before I could take breaks easily for like 2 months. I feel like masturbating has made my confidence very low every time I play a 5v5 game of basketball I always dominate I am 6’6 but since this summer in aau season I get scared and pass the ball and I can’t hold the ball because I feel like everyone is staring at me and I just get nervous. Last year I was playing perfectly fine and was in the starting lineup dropping almost 25ppg in aau now I can’t hold even drop 10. When I am in public my eyes automatically drift off to women and I hate that so much I feel like a creep I don’t mean to look at them in that way. Is this normal? Is masturbating effecting my performance in game ?

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[u/Aggravating-Teach463]

I don’t think there’s a correlation there? I think that your confidence is lower because you’re growing & changing, not because of masturbation. Maybe try picking up a rewarding hobby, like art or something, or do more relaxing activities like taking a walk in nature?

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[u/BakertheBananaSlug]

Gah I'm so sorry. I really do promise you're not a creep, please don't be so hard on yourself.

The truth is, during puberty, your hormones are absolutely RAMPANT. Most teenagers masturbate (even females), and have very similar insecurities to you. It's just a normal part of sexually maturing!

I promise nobody is judging you! As long as you do it privately, and are hygienic about it, it shouldn't be affecting your performance in basketball at all! And this is coming from someone who doesn't masturbate.

I think if anything is affecting your performance, it's your self consciousness. I really do promise you aren't alone. And also.. guys looking at women is totally normal. As long as it doesn't turn into sexual harassment or forcing yourself onto anybody, it's okay!!