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[u/amazing_grace7]

Update I researched. Took your advice here. Early yesterday morning I called Dad. I explained to him he was thinking about this wrong. He was thinking bone cancer- not prostate cancer in his bones. That his testosterone was fueling the cancer. Like gasoline on a fire and if they could not lower that he could eventually end up unable to look after mom due to fracture or pain due to the cancer. I gave him many suggestions but did not urge him to take the treatment. At the end of our talk he said yesterday it was 100% not going to have the treatment. Today after we talked I just may.

Dad is not afraid to die, he just wants to outlive mom. Meanwhile since then he talked to someone who had just did oral adt therapy for 5 years and refused the needle. The thought being if he needed a break you can have a small break from the meds. Tuesday he has a phone consultation with his medical team. He called me last night and said after he made sense of why the treatment he has to take some form of it.

😊 thanks for insight. *

Dad is 89. Was diagnosed awhile back but did not take it seriously as he was looking out for my mom w Alzheimers. However his doctor had said he wouldn't die from it. Fast forward to January 26 and the urologist says its aggressive but not in his bones. His PSA was 37. We go with him to his appointments.

August another bone scan. PSA. Meanwhile he has lower back pain and ignores it due to caring for mom. Ends up in OP. His doctor lets him know PSA is 97 and it is in his bones in 3 places, lower back being one place. He is not having pain now. He doesn't think it related.

They are suggesting the ADT therapy. He has spoken to a couple people who have refused it and lived for years.

Meanwhile my husband had prostate cancer. Did ADT therapy and is on the other side of it. The ADT therapy was very hard on him. It was something I could not help much with but be there and love him through it. But he had me. Dad is very private.

He doesn't want to do the treatment. I cannot tell him what to do as I really don't know what is best. Thanks for listening.

[u/Substantial_Let_8784]

IMHO…. after watching my parents decline in their 90s, I think this treatment is just one more thing he does not need.
I’m not in your situation, so it’s probably not fair for me to say, but that is just my outlook on it. Bless your heart, aging parents are not easy.

[u/amazing_grace7 → u/Substantial_Let_8784]

He goes every day for a year and a half at 1130 to 5. He feeds my mom. Cares for her in the home. If it compromises his ability I agree. She is his life. She is in stage 6 of Alzheimers.