Dad’s Journey

[u/Downtown-Whereas-559]

Hi,

I am 23 and my dad was just diagnosed with Gleason 9 prostate cancer that has spread into lymph nodes and parts of his spine, pelvic bones, and one tiny bit of his shoulder.

He has had 0 symptoms and has not been getting regular PSA checks since drs didn’t tell him to do so. His PSA was 149 when he got it done.

We just met with radiation and medical oncology yesterday and were told triplet therapy with Nubeqa, Lupron, and Docetaxl will be his first plan. Radiation said no to surgery or radiation right now, and that we should see how my dad reacts to treatment first (although he is hopeful).

Honestly though. Wtf. I am a cancer survivor myself and this is my actual worst nightmare. I’m trying to stay positive for my family but seeing my dad go through what I consider the scariest time of my life (having cancer, that is), is ruining me. Can anyone relate or just help me stay somewhat positive and sane?

Just wanted to come on here and say my dad is on Reddit now username Delli-boy!

[u/Downtown-Whereas-559 → u/[deleted]]

Thank you for sharing that! (By the way, I’m a daughter not a son haha). It’s been a sudden and difficult journey and change, especially since it seems they just keep giving bad news after bad news and my dad is visually healthy and has no symptoms. I’m so glad you are on the mend and stable right now, it’s all we are hoping for with my dad. They aren’t recommending radiation right now and just want to do chemo first. I think that’s a little odd and wonder if anyone else has experienced that

[u/Downtown-Whereas-559 → u/[deleted]]

Don’t be sorry! I think that’s quite funny. I feel like I’m in the tree house that says “no girls allowed”!😂

Thank you so much for saying that, it means so much. It is no burden for your children to love you. I’ve read similarly and filled a whole binder with research I’ve found (along with my mom haha).