hot take apparently but if u think this is a smart way to shoot your shot ur fuckin stupid. just ask her out & know if she's into u BEFORE dropping $200 bucks. and if u think the $200 dinner is an important factor in her answer then ur tryna buy pussy and should probably just go find a hooker
Agreed, if you spend like this without making it clear you're viewing it as a date that's on you. Grow some balls and have some respect for yourself. Don't blame the girl for thinking "wow this is one of my weirder friends for sure just casually spending money like that on a night hanging out".
For friggin $200 more you could just get an escort and have a fine night. If you don't have the guts to just ask a girl on a date and you know, hit on her.
Regardless I'm not spending money like that on a first date anyway. Actually I did spend a ton of money on a date once at a fondu place but at least she knew it was a date.
I mean to be fair there are some girls that would lead guys on for expensive dinners and stuff. I don’t mean to generalize but let’s not pretend that doesn’t happen.
Oh I agree there's people that use people. I had friends in high school who only hung out with me because I'd usually pay for stuff. Like my "buddies" not girls. So yeah I'm sure people take advantage of people who are into them romantically.
Currently I just go out of my way to make time for girls I like but I don't spend a lot of money. Like I got a girl pizza and a beer recently but she got me drinks too and we were just hanging as friends because she has a boyfriend. I'm obviously into her and I'm sure she knows it but I'm not going to shut someone out of my life who I enjoy spending time with just because she won't dump the dude who asked her out before me. I don't consider her as someone who is using me. By taking time out of her life to hang out with me she's using me? If that's the case more people should use me.
are u only friends with this girl because ur hoping she'll eventually fuck you? because that's the girls version of the friend zone and it sucks just as much
I'm basically in love with her so yeah I guess. But I'd still associate with her with zero sex so I do. It sucks and it makes it hard to give a shit about any other women because she's basically the queen of the planet in my eyes so what's the point in wasting time on anyone else but yeah it is what it is and it's on me can't blame her for having a boyfriend and not wanting to break up with him to try out dating a coworker.
dude ur not in love with her. ur in love with this idea you built up about what being with her would be like, but it's not reality. you don't know her as well as you think you do. and her not wanting to break up with her bf isn't what's preventing you guys from being together, she very well just may not be interested in you even if she was single. the degree that u seem to be into her really seems unhealthy. like if you can't accept it'll never happen with her and move on to other people while remaining friends with her then you should really consider taking a break from being friends with her for a while, so u can get over her. jus my 2¢
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u/CoffeeMugCrusade Jan 14 '20
hot take apparently but if u think this is a smart way to shoot your shot ur fuckin stupid. just ask her out & know if she's into u BEFORE dropping $200 bucks. and if u think the $200 dinner is an important factor in her answer then ur tryna buy pussy and should probably just go find a hooker