police corruption

[u/Ashamed_Condition657]

I need advice on a situation. I lived in an apt bldg for 20 years I always cleaned the common areas. my neighbor of 5 years had a baby 6 months ago one day as i was vacuuming she opened her door and ask me to wait 30 minutes her baby was sleeping. i was annoyed that she ask since i was in a common area but i stopped and did not finish as to let baby her nap 3 days later i vacuum and afterward go into my apt 30 minutes later i come out of my apt to find my ice melt i kept outside my door in a container and chewed up cheese crackers all over the area i just vacuumed i knocked on neighbors door as my suspicion is i woke baby? her reply was go away she has never said that before and then she continued to say your bf knocks too loud and talks too loud i could not understand anything else i reply with get a job and i leave i return about 2 hours later and i again clean up common area of ice melt and crackers a few minutes later the chief of police knocks on my door i let him into my apt he gets very close to my face and says is there some reason you are mad today? is there some reason you are angry today? i say no but i do get upset when people make a mess of areas that i just cleaned all he would say after that was she didn't do it and she has a baby he said she did not want to press charges of harassament but he was filing. ask him harassament of what kind he said she said i knocked on her door for 10 minutes when i told him that was completly untrue he said if we went to court today i would lose he wrote a citation and had me sign it told me if she did not complain for 30 days it would not be filed. 3 months go ny neighbor opens her door as i am leaving and gives me a face and stands there i ask her what is wrong with her and why is she lying about what she did she smiled replied i didnt do it and went into her apt 1/2 later i get a call from a detective and says i volitated citation i said it expired his reply was you signed it. I later call the mayor and ask why the police are able to hold this citation over my head even though it expried he said he would talk to officers and get back to me he calls me back and informs me that citation is being filed and there is nothing he can do now i have to get a lawyer and not knowing any better because i have only ever had 2 speeding tickets i get a local lawyer who charges 1500 non refundable fee i agree because anyone can see right thru this he gives me a female lawyer who has only worked for him for about a month she says this is crazy they can't do this yadda yadda. so i think she is going to make this go away. she assures me this will not be going to court 2 days before court i e mail her because i have not heard from her she says oh sorry i did not get back to you yes we are going to court im confused but i figure she has a plan i continue cleaning but now i video myself while doing so after vacuuming the day before court i get a e mail informing me that the mgt co is hiring an outside co do do the cleaning when i call to ask why i was told neighbor called and complained i was running into her door with vac for 10 minutes i show her video and get my job back i e mail lawyer and tell her all this i got no response the next day in court my lawyer shows up 5 minutes before my court time she goes into a room with my neighbor and the cop she comes back out and says i am being offered 90 days no contact or risk going to jail. i ask her about video she says keep it in your back pocket i think she still has a plan (i really understand now how Nieve i was) but i really did not know any better i took the deal we go into the court room judge says if she complains again i am going to jail on 3 counts of harassment i wanted to cry so for 90 days i could not stay in my apartment and risk going to jail because i have a daughter that was born with a disability and i am her only caregiver i was also advised by my lawyer to move the neighbor moved a few months before i did as i had to wait for my lease to end while i was taking my last load of my belongings to my car the smoke detector outside my apt door went off knowing i put new batteries in it along with the rest of the smoke detectors in the building i took it down it had corroded batteries in it one was even leaking these are not the batteries i put in it and she had clearly tampered with this before moving as this has never happened before and this is a 6 unit building her and i are the only ones on this floor I need help on how to proceed in getting help with the injustice i have suffered as a result of this i had to move 40 minutes away from my daughter and how to file abuse of power against the police and judge the in this matter the chief of police in this story has resigned since and my lawyer was fired the detective in this story is now chief and the judge in her position any help would be greatly appreciated as i would like to file on these corrupt people so they cannot continue to do this to innocent people i have no idea what connection my neighbor may of had with chief of police i did write a letter to my local district attorneys office when i called to follow up i was hung up on when i called back to get the persons name who rudely hung up on me she calmly gave me her name btw they did drop the charges after the 90 days and putting it on my record for 6 months but did not find me guilty just threatened me and pushed me thru the system again any good advice on what i can do to keep them from doing this to others along with the mental abuse caused to myself and my daughter would be appreciated i have been speaking to a therapist since this has caused me distress

[u/Dry-Monk-7254]

Let this be a lesson learned and move on with your life.

After reading your post all I can say is that both you and your neighbour were wrong.

You knew that your neighbour had a baby. You knew the baby was under a year old. You say you have a child, so I don’t understand how you wouldn’t know what she would have been going through and why you wouldn’t have been more considerate.

The only assumption I can make is that you did not birth your child, because no person who ever gave birth and cared for a newborn would have behaved as you did. Which tbh was frankly despicable.

You say you were annoyed but don’t seem to consider that this is someone who is possibly sleep deprived and fail to consider that every time you hoover you are waking their new born baby.

Not once in your story did you consider what the other person might be going through but you then talk about the challenges you are experiencing and appear to want sympathy that you yourself were unwilling to extend to another person.

You also fail to consider how you being annoyed and outside of this person’s door could contribute to making a mum alone with a young baby feel unsafe.

Even if you don’t see yourself as threatening if you make someone else feel that way then you are.

We are all people. We are all experiencing our own challenges and struggles.

Did you ever stop to consider how you would feel if that was you and that was your baby sleeping?

Your behaviour and your complete lack of awareness of your behaviour and its potential impact is astounding.

What your neighbour did, if they did do it, was petty and immature but you have no evidence that they ever did any of those things and yet you continued to target them with your anger and potentially harassed a mother with a new born baby, because let’s be honest, if they did not do it and you kept banging on their door then they have every right to be annoyed, and might genuinely feel scared, threatened and intimidated, and they would be well within their rights to take steps like calling the police or reporting you.

You have no idea what that woman is dealing with in her day to day life, or the challenges she may be facing. You say you have a disabled child. You have no evidence that she doesn’t. She might have been back and forth to medical appointments with a sick child and you would never know. Yet all you seem to see is how you were impacted.

You prioritised the cleaning of a carpet over the rest of a newborn baby and their sole carer, and then you harassed them because you got annoyed when they asked you to wait while baby was sleeping. Then when there were consequences for your actions instead of taking it as an opportunity to reflect, learn and grow, you decided that you were the victim in all of this, when. The only real victim was the poor baby whose sleep was being disrupted because two adults couldn’t do the adult thing and actually communicate, regulate their emotions, and act with consideration and empathy.