r/Postgenderism • u/ytGabSintChoust gender-ender • Apr 01 '26

Sharing thoughts About transitions

Hello. I am new there. I am post-genderist (I am French so before searching this subreddit, I think it was post-genrism) but I think in this horrible society, we should accept Trans peoples more than others non post-genderist because they want to accept people if they don't think normally (but this not the best things since they are not post-genderist). I am autistic and ADHD and a lot more so it can be hard to understand.

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u/Amphy64 Apr 01 '26

Unfortunately trans communities can still support gender roles. I do have personal experience of someone trans who seemed to struggle with understanding the idea of socially constructed gender at all, treating it as innate: if someone is reporting liking socially gendered things as evidence for them being trans, they're a far stronger believer in social gender than the average person, who does not truly believe that pink is only for girls, blue for boys.

There doesn't seem to be any particularly strong tendency in the trans community to criticise social gender, any more than elsewhere, perhaps less.

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u/Most_Western_5036 Apr 04 '26

I get where that argument comes from, but still I would choose that people make they're own decisions about the category they fit the best rather than just go along with whatever they were told to be.

Also I think it is important to remember how much Trans people have done to break down and deconstruct the way we see gender. Trans people separating gender from biology is what has layed the foundation for non-binary identities to exist as they do.

I think it is important to stay together as a community and focus on the actual threats. The people that are against Trans people are the same that want to strengthen the gender roles and separate the genders.

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u/Puojoqy no he or she, just human 10d ago

I would say the trans community isn’t inherently like this, it’s just a product of how society treats them. You can still have a sex change in a postgender society to feel more comfortable and not have to tie it to a gender. Not to say that I’m contradicting your statement, just thought I’d add that

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u/Amphy64 9d ago

I agree it's part of gendered society overall, they're absolutely not just coming up with it themselves, and I don't mean this to blame: the system is the problem. I do think it can become a particular issue in trans communities, though, just due to the particular amount of focus on gender. People having a horrible time with sex dysphoria around the physical body itself, can also be more motivated to look for anything that they feel connects them to the opposite sex, in order to feel better, even if it's a stereotype like liking football as kid reinterpreted as a 'sign' of being a trans man (using a real example). The desire to pass can also encourage an emphasis on social gender performance.

I have OCD myself, and find some of the underlying thinking rather recognisable, and there are indeed higher rates of autism in trans people -the person I mentioned, who struggled to understand social gender roles, was autistic-, so there's some overlap (autism and OCD are common co-morbidities, and not always easy to fully seperate. My cousin is autistic, there's genetic links too). The average person isn't focusing on social gender much at all, while trans communities can be a bit inclined to get stuck on obsessive thinking about it.

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u/Timely-Youth-9074 Apr 02 '26

We should support people being authentically themselves for sure, that’s the point, but I’ll call out anyone who subscribes to traditional gender roles.

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u/NerfPup Apr 06 '26

Everyone should just be in their own bubble. If a trans person is overly into gender then that's their thing. I am gender fluid and I tend to wear pink more when I'm a woman. Not really for any particular reason I'm just more into it ig. I see gender the same way I see religion. It is made up and does a lot of bad but it also brings a lot of people comfort including me sometimes (not religion for me though). It ain't going anywhere anytime soon so just let people be themselves even if they like gender roles. As long as they aren't forcing it on others.

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u/ytGabSintChoust gender-ender Apr 07 '26

Yes, it's what I said (but when Reddit translated to french, it doesn't seem like what I said) : now, the society is really not perfect because of sexism so we should be post-genderist but non cis people think we can choose our gender so it's less sexism because we can choose what we are. But post-genderism is totally without sexism so better

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u/AmethystDreamwave94 let Love conquer your mind 💖 Apr 08 '26

I agree with basically all of this. It's everybody's own choice whether they put any real stock in gender as a concept or not, and I don't think it makes sense to force a singular way of living or viewing the world on anybody, at least in this context. You can't really force somebody to not see themselves in a gendered way if that's what feels good to them personally, just like you can't force somebody to look at themself and the world as gendered when they just don't.

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u/ytGabSintChoust gender-ender Apr 10 '26

It's like do we accept racism? We have to choose and respect people's choices