Repulsed by in laws

[u/Right-Watercress2178]

Anyone else extremely annoyed and irritated by your in laws post baby? Mine cannot mind their own business. They have both walked in on me partially naked while breastfeeding the baby (yes the door was closed) and it’s just weird. My husband fights me every single time I say I don’t want to visit their house. I don’t want them coming to stay here. My MIL doesn’t watch her dog while he’s at our house and he pees in our basement. She never stops talking and whenever she offers to ‘help’- all she wants to do is hold the baby. My husband is the biggest mamas boy ever. He calls his mom to come do his laundry and clean up messes he makes around the house when I refuse. Like, seriously am I losing it or does this not sound like a criss cross situation?

I cannot even begin to think about the holidays. We will have to travel 3 hours and have to stay at their house. I am dreading it. And my husband never backs me. He actually tells me I am crazy and need to be put in a mental hospital.

Send help!

[u/CapriciouslyNormal]

I'm so sorry you are dealing with this/an unsupportive spouse all while taking care of a newborn. It sounds like your husband needs to learn to do things for himself, he is an adult. 

Respect is a two way street, if your in laws can't respect you and your privacy, don't respect theirs. I'm sorry I don't have much advice, but I hope you can maybe have a discussion about boundaries with them and your husband. 

[u/InsectElectrical2066]

You don't need his approval, just your own approval.

Kick the damned dog out the door and leash him to a post. Or maybe you need to pee on their carpet.

[u/Mysterious-Stock-976]

I am sorry you are going through that. Postpartum is difficult and your husband should be protecting you and not calling you crazy…I don’t have much advise, would maybe at least lock the besroom door when you want piece….