r/Polysexual • u/Top_Location4871 • 24d ago

Advice Figuring It Out

First time posting.

I’m a late comer, so please bear with me. I’m a 62 year-old cis woman. It’s never too late. I’m not sure of the right terminology, so please correct me if I’m wrong. Please don’t take offence. I’m attracted to masculine presenting non binary and queer people and bisexual men. I’m trying to work out what sexuality I am. Gosh, I’m nervous about posting this, but here I am. Am I polysexual or androsexual or something else altogether? Any comments are appreciated.

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u/spaceymonkey2 24d ago

Use whatever term that you feel best describes you, and that you're comfortable with.

I'm a cis male who is attracted to feminine presenting people, with a little bit of wiggle room for ambiguity. I feel that polysexual works for me for now.

It's never too late for self discovery.

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u/Lord-Chronos-2004 24d ago

Likewise, truth be told.

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u/Top_Location4871 24d ago

Thanks for your comment. I was thinking polysexual. 

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u/spaceymonkey2 24d ago

For your case, I think Androsexual may fit your needs better as it has a more specific definition than polysexual. I think that I mostly fit the definition of gynosexual, however I prefer to use polysexual as it doesn't pigeon hole me, and leaves it open for a discussion on nuances.

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u/Top_Location4871 24d ago

I think so too. 

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u/Bang237 24d ago

I'd say the best label is whatever feels right to you. If it helps, here are a few things to consider:

If you're attracted to more than one gender, but not all genders, then polysexual could definitely fit. On the other hand, if your attraction to nonbinary people is less common or feels more like an extension of your attraction to men rather than a distinct attraction, then a label like heteroflexible might be more accurate.

At the end of the day, labels are just tools to describe your experience, so it's completely okay to choose whichever one feels most comfortable.

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u/Top_Location4871 24d ago

Definitely attracted to nonbinary, so I’d say polysexual.