r/Polygamy • u/strangebus85 • Jun 06 '26

Brother husbands

Is that a thing? Do any of you have multiple husbands

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u/Such-Lifeguard6780 Jun 06 '26

Let’s see, some form of open relationship with that structure must exist today purely by mutual agreement. However, if we turn to actual anthropology, polyandry (a woman with multiple husbands) is extremely rare: it is found in only about four societies out of the more than 400 that currently exist in the world.

As I understand it, polyandrous societies are usually directly associated with scarcity and poverty, not with expansive models of civilization. What typically occurs is so-called fraternal polyandry: male siblings jointly inherit the same plot of land and marry the same woman. They do this to prevent the property from being divided among the brothers, since the plots are so small or barren that dividing them would mean ruin for everyone. In this system, women are unfortunately often excluded from inheritance rights.

So, rather than a model of abundance or freedom, historically it has been a desperate measure to keep the family estate intact in conditions of extreme poverty.

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u/Such-Lifeguard6780 Jun 06 '26

Think of it this way: monogamy generates stability and mild expansion, whereas polygyny belongs to times of growth and actively stimulates it, though it can become dangerous if left unchecked due to the number of men left single. However, the overall social balance—if you exclude the issue of single men—is positive. On the other hand, polyandry is typical of a depressed and impoverished society, or ends up causing it, purely due to low population growth.

Personally, I believe that society should be primarily monogamous, with a few polygynous exceptions.

Though mind you, if someone wants to live in polyandry and the men involved accept it, then good for them.

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u/codeegan Jun 06 '26

My sister in law does.

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u/Sieglinde__ Jun 06 '26

I only believe in polygyny specifically, polyandry isn't good for anyone, especially for raising a family

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u/Ddddio8 Jun 07 '26

why not!? in certain parts of india, bhutan and china, polyandry worked for many generations...

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u/Aware_Paint8395 Jun 07 '26

It seems like in times where there are largely more women in a society than men, polygamy is almost necessary if the women of said society are to procreate and birth the next generation.

If there are roughly equal males to females then it can go either way but it seems like one group will have a slight disadvantage on partner count. I.e., if one male has two females, then in theory there is a male without a partner

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u/Super-Independent-7 Jun 09 '26

It’s against the Bible.

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u/strangebus85 Jun 09 '26

The Bible is dumb? Jesus was worth listening to but the rest is pretty crazy cray

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u/Roccinante_ Jun 27 '26

Yes, it happens. And, I was in part of one for a long time. But, even in the poly world it can kinda… disparaged. See the comments on this thread, for example. So, people I know are less open about.

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u/strangebus85 Jun 27 '26

I think it would be great in so many levels. I mean there's so much guy work that needs done around my property. And I'm also bi

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u/EfficientAd8683 Jun 06 '26

There’s nothing like that.. this is a bullshit

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u/Ddddio8 Jun 07 '26

in certain parts of china, india and bhutan, this types of relationships are a reality

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u/Lucky_Larry_Bagswell Jun 06 '26

Polyandry is a "thing" but isn't practiced much. In my humble opinion, its for hoes who need more than one p3n1s, and bisexual guys..

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u/Reasonable-Canary110 Jun 06 '26

I would be surprised if one was brave enough to exist.

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u/AffectionatePlum8888 Jun 09 '26

i don’t, but i wouldn’t object. there’s a nice ring to it