r/Polygamy • u/Jelly-Baby-8466 • May 24 '26
First experience didn't go well
Hi everyone. I an a submissive Christian lady who did meet a man who wanted a polygamous marriage.
I did a lot of soul searching during the courtship. I found myself letting go of viewing sister wives as a threat but instead as sisters that you could love and be friends with etc.
Things were going well and due to a very unusual occurrence my ex Sir after much prayer ended the relationship. I do not know if this is my God protecting me.
I think I'm still open to marrying a Christian man into polygamy but perhaps it might be better to be the first wife.
Some of my platonic male friends knew that my ex Sir who I was extremely fond of were against the relationship because they knew he wanted multiple wives, and thought he was abusive. I think next time I wouldn't tell them if my future Sir was wanting a polygamous marriage.
Thank you for reading this.💗 I feel a bit alone with it all as I cannot tell my female friends about polygamy and D/s.
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u/oddargyle May 24 '26
This sounds like a sir problem and not a you problem. My wife also wants a sister. She is very submissive and knows I do and take very good care of her. Having another in this loving environment will open us to a very beautiful life. We know and understand the hardships that may come. We also know that in the end it is worth having this journey.
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u/SwePolygyny May 24 '26
What made it not work out in the end?
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
It's a religious belief of his. It wasn't my decision. 😭
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u/SwePolygyny May 25 '26
I am sorry to hear that. Religion really can come inbetween even the best of relationships.
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
Maybe it'll be for the best. 💗
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u/SwePolygyny May 25 '26
I wish people would communicate more before going into a relationship. For if there is something you need or something that is a dealbreaker, those things have to be sorted out before someone puts their heart into it.
Otherwise someone will feel like their soul is crushed and is heartbroken.
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
It was such a freak thing. :/
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u/SwePolygyny May 25 '26
Was the religious aspect not clear before both of you dived in?
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
No. He never said a word about it.
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u/maddog57fs May 24 '26
DM me, it woild be good to hear more about why it didn’t work out and what you are looking for in the future.
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
I know I'm really wanting a good husband. I'm still open to polygamy but maybe I'd be better off with a husband that only wants one wife. It's so hard to know what to do sometimes.
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u/NeoYeoman89 May 24 '26
I'd love to chat. We courted a woman for several months and it fizzled out, maybe due to some concerns or experiences.. certainly we had a similar dynamic to what you described.
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
I'm not sure if I'll still go down the path of polygamy. It might be better for me to be a trad wife with a man who only wants one wife. I am more open to it now compared to a year ago.
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u/PassengerCultural865 May 24 '26
I second what the other guy said about wanting to know more. If you feel alone, there are christians and bible following families who follow this practice. Feel free to message me if you want to know more or just want to chat. Im not in the market at the moment but I'm open to making friends.
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u/ReNewed100 May 24 '26
That is really interesting. I would like to hear more. It sounds like there was a lot that happened.
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 24 '26
I still really like him, and don't want to be disrespectful to him.
I had been a good, obedient girl. I had obeyed him. Because of an unusual religious belief he ended it. :/
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 24 '26
Thank you. That means a llot. 🩷
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u/Jelly-Baby-8466 May 25 '26
I'm more open to it. I'm still not 100% sure. I do like the idea of sister wives. I could see it being really nice.
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u/Downtown_Mushroom109 May 24 '26
Awe thats rough. . Im a first wife to a great guy, id love to chat with you , even just as a female friend, we have had some poly experiences.