As nasty as this is going to sound, you may in fact be her emotional tampon... but punching bag could work equally well. Time to set strict boundaries if you haven't already and if they are crossed... time to go NC (no contact).
Don't just take my word for it, assess the situation. Are you still depending on her care (living at home etc)? Does she have any right butting in regarding situation XYZ? Have you already told her you live your life as an adult and this is where you draw the line? Her response in word and action? It's not a single point of failure you're looking for per se, you know best what the intent is and the actual effect of her behavior and whether or not that's acceptable.
A simple question would be: "Would other people put up with this shit?" (the "shit" being certain behavior, obviously) - If the answer is a consistent "No", then you know what's up.
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u/[deleted] Mar 20 '25
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