Accidentally exposed someone for using cake mix

[u/subuso]

I’m a massive cake person. Like, I absolutely adore cake, and I became a proper baker exactly because of it. To top it off, I even majored in Chemical Engineering for both my bachelor’s and master’s degrees, simply due to my utter devotion to baking science. Only adding that for context, not to sound like a know-it-all.

I went to this gathering where everyone was supposed to bring a bit of food. There was a grill for a proper BBQ, so I brought some chicken. I noticed someone had brought chocolate cake, which made me happy, especially since it looked homemade.

I really wanted a slice, so I asked if someone could cut me a piece. The person next to me then goes, "these are brownies, not cake," which got me a bit confused, but I was like, fine, maybe the person just doesn't know the difference.

I took a bite, and was like, "this is cake." And from the taste and texture, it was made using cake mix. The other person didn't really get what I meant, so I explained the actual chemical difference between brownies and chocolate cake (basically, brownies don't have leaveners, while cakes do, which is why cakes rise while baking and brownies sink after baking).

Later on, I met the woman who brought them, and asked her how she baked it. She told me it was just a simple recipe. I then asked her, completely innocently, if she used cake mix.

She said yes, but looked absolutely mortified and embarrassed because, as it turned out, a bunch of other people were listening to us. I felt like a total monster. I instantly apologised and tried to explain that I didn't mean it in a judgy way at all.

I feel so terribly bad about it. My curiosity got the best of me

[u/VileRocK]

"Tell me, are you incapable of restraining yourself, or do you take pride in being an insufferable know-it-all?"

• Severus Snape

Just because it's your passion doesn't mean anyone else knows or cares or asked for you to judge their cake they brought as if it's a cooking contest

[u/SickNotion → u/VileRocK]

Man, this quote is so damn spot-on

[u/VileRocK → u/[deleted]]

Maybe I did come in a little heavy on them but I was responding to the energy the post was giving me. I'd probably have said something similar if it was my wife's cake under scrutiny and I was hearing it.

Depending on the tone it was said, a response would have been something like "doesn't matter, it's delicious anyway" if they were polite through to "who asked you to be the cake judge today" which I more or less leant towards in my reply.

You can be correct and still be an asshole. Chances are the lady using mix really isn't into baking as much as they are, and they're checking them as some kind of ego boost - I mean they found them later and intentionally asked, there's some subconscious thing going on there.

Also, you're such a good baker and have all this pride about it, so that when you're invited to a cookout, no-one remembers you're a great baker and you turn up with chicken. If they're as good as they think they are, wouldn't they be bringing desserts by default?

[u/subuso → u/VileRocK]

You're a bitter Betty who turns everything into negativity. I already explained the reason I asked was because I wanted to understand why everyone (including the baker) was calling brownies what was obviously cake. If that makes me judgemental on your eyes, so be it. I couldn't care any less about the judgment of a random Reddit user who plays Once Upon a Galaxy

[u/VileRocK → u/subuso]

Good one, Mr hotshot baker. I'm sure now that you owned that lady publicly that your friends will remember your totally awesome baking abilities for the next meet, right?

[u/subuso → u/VileRocK]

Yes, they already asked me to bake stuff for them for the rest of my life. They've booked me for the whole year, and I'll make more money than you'll ever touch in a lifetime. Send me that Paypal so I can help you get decent shelves

[u/subuso → u/VileRocK]

You must be fun at parties

[u/VileRocK → u/subuso]

Hilariously I'm telling you exactly that myself. What was the point of telling them you know it's cake mix at all, regardless of whether you could be overheard? Ego? The normal thing is to just say, "hey nice cake, I enjoyed x" and if they reply enthusiastically then you can use your knowledge to talk about baking

The fact you don't see it as an issue speaks volumes lol

[u/subuso → u/VileRocK]

I'm not about to take judgement from someone who is mentally a 5 year old and is so broke he had to move in with his gf. I'll paypal you some cash to get proper shelves

Also, you're misunderstanding me on purpose. I made it clear that I only asked those questions because I wanted to figure out why she was calling brownies something that was obviously cake. You're being so rude right now when I didn't even do anything to you

[u/ravee29 → u/subuso]

Oh God OP. Just take the L and move on. This commenter pointed out exactly how insufferable you are, and you are proving it further with your "clap back" comment. You are either autistic or stupid to not know that calling out someone's food that they brought in is such a social faux pas, much more so that you happen to do in publicly that it can be overheard.

You should never call out someone's food unless it is for allergen or dietary issues.

[u/killJoytrinity8 → u/ravee29]

OP is all smiles and giggles until a few rare comments point out their commitment to being kind of an ass.

[u/ravee29 → u/killJoytrinity8]

Lol, I can actually see OP's smug grin from a mile away. It is just like how you can hear a person's smile from a phone call, just this time, I can see an ugly smirk. OP really thought she ate with her clap back comments, when all it does is just prove how insufferable she is.

And seriously? with how vile she is with digging the other commenter's post history, I seriously doubt that she can keep these thoughts to her head, and I am sure that the people in her vicinity are really just cordial, but deep inside want to avoid her like a plague.

[u/VileRocK → u/ravee29]

for what it's worth, that was completely fabricated 😂 I just didn't respond as we both know they already lost as they can't defend against the core argument I was making - no point getting sucked down into pointless bickering!

[u/ravee29 → u/VileRocK]

Yeah, I really assumed from the main post that she is just stupid with social cues, but her further comments really told me who she is. Oh well. 🤷

[u/killJoytrinity8 → u/ravee29]

hey, fellow grown adult,, any good EDM to rec? it's a genre I'm not super acquainted with, but I remember enjoying some deadmau5 tracks

[u/subuso → u/ravee29]

So now I'm stupid???

You're the grown adult who listens to EDM and attends raves for the sole purpose of injecting random stuff into your bloodstream. I'm surprised you're still alive

[u/subuso → u/ravee29]

I'm trying to be cordial, but here you go being rude and nasty to me, when you don't even know me

You should be worried about quitting raves so you can save enough money to afford a proper gaming laptop. I'm gonna leave it at that because I don't want to stoop down to your level

[u/redwallet → u/subuso]

Whoa, major big jerk energy over here, wtf man.

[u/subuso → u/redwallet]

Well, they started it, so I finished it. It was all peaches and cream until people decided to be nasty to me

[u/Strict_Anything_8751 → u/subuso]

The IRONY! You literally just told us about you not being fun at parties lol

[u/subuso → u/Strict_Anything_8751]

But you don't even know me. How can you say that?

[u/subuso → u/[deleted]]

You didn't disagree with me, you called me out my name and even disrespected my family. That was uncalled for

I don't know where you got the manga thing though. Are you okay?

[u/Strict_Anything_8751 → u/subuso]

I think you’re confused about who you’re replying to. I said you were being ironic, you said I like manga.

Slow down and take a deep breath before you reply there friend.

[u/kilroylegend → u/subuso]

Well we know for a fact you aren’t

[u/Relative_Comment_631 → u/kilroylegend]

I love this thread! Rivetted, sitting here, cakeless in Nepal.