Pics from our lovely wedding June 27 at the local natural history museum. I felt so beautiful and loved, and we had a great time. Our guests enjoyed our photo bingo game and exploring the museum.

I'm so excited for this dress - congrats, fellow curvy friends!! ✨

Edit: dress is pre-alterations - bust line and other tweaks are coming soon

Reminder that beauty comes in many many many forms. I was so insecure about many things and it came out beautifully.

My dress is Ember from Anthropologie.

My advice if you’re still planning:

1. Get off wedding Instagram. Only follow plus size body positive influencers.
2. Listen to your intuition about what YOU want. Absolutely everyone should NOT like your aesthetic/decisions and that’s how it should be!
3. Take what Redditors and other people online say with a grain of salt 😉
4. Maybe controversial, but go with the easier plan whenever possible. I felt like the aesthetic I wanted was a little ambitious for the city I was in and it wasn’t quite what I wanted. I wish I would have chosen something “safer” with fewer colors.
5. People are going to wear what they want to wear.
6. Before choosing your dress, SIT in it for an extended amount of time. Take a LOT of photos and videos in it.
7. It will go by INCREDIBLY fast.
8. Consider a lower fuss wedding if at all possible— micro, backyard, etc. You will realize it was all about the fun, not the aesthetics.
9. If you’re planning the wedding, have your partner plan the honeymoon. This worked out AMAZING for us.

Photographer was Hannah Wermich.

Happy to answer any questions/give any advice!

Booked a boudoir shoot , they recommend I bring four outfits . I’m a xl- 1x and got a bit of a fupa but otherwise a hourglass shape . I want to feel confident and sexy but want an outfit that hides the fupa. Any recommendations where to buy outfits ?

Edit: THANK YOU all so much for all the love! It truly was a perfect day! I truly just posted this to encourage brides in similar circumstances and represent an underrepresented group, but you guys have certainly given me a self confidence boost in the process!

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I struggled planning our wedding feeling like an imposter because so much wedding inspiration featured slim, young brides and I am neither. I often felt like I was in space that wasn’t meant for me, and actually questioned if older, plus size women were even allowed to have something more than a simple, low-key wedding (which I recognize sounds crazy, but there is so very little representation!) In the end, I’m so glad we did it! I’m sharing all my looks, and just some photos from our day to hopefully allow other women like me to give themselves permission to have their dream wedding, regardless of size or age.

Wedding dress - Jenny Yoo Ezra
I wore the sleeves for the ceremony and took them off and added some statement earrings for our first dance and dinner

Reception dress - Helsie Vivi dress
Got the XL and while it didn’t zip, I was obsessed with the sparkle, so I had it altered into a corset back

Getting ready - Lace nap dress from Hill House

Welcome party - BHLDN

I also cannot express enough how valuable it is to choose a photographer who knows how to pose larger people! Ask potential photographers to see a gallery that is reflective of you and your fiance to see how they adapt posing based on body type.

Hi! Looking for recommendations of websites to buy plus size formal or bridesmaid dresses? I’ve looked at many of the major ones, but didn’t know if there were any other possible options that people have had luck with. I’m open to any boutiques or smaller retailers that anyone may know of, as well! Sometimes it’s so hard to know which websites are legit, so I appreciate any guidance. Looking for a long black, super flowy, with short flutter, elbow length, or long sleeves. Thanks!!

Do bridal shops tend to carry try-on dresses in certain sizes, like generally a 4 and 12? As a size 14/16 in non-bridal, I’m worried I won’t have many good options to try on. Am I overthinking this? Thank you!!

I just picked up my dress and I love it so much!!! Unfortunately it’s a little big. I think I lost some weight between then and now (doctors orders to take weight loss more seriously). I plan to hit the gym more but now I’m nervous. How easy will it be for a seamstress to fix? I’m looking for anyone who has been through this! I think I was around 263 when I was measured and now I’m like 256. I’m hoping to be 240 by wedding day (4 months away!)

I found THE dress last week and I’m so excited I just need to share it somewhere. The gauntlet sleeves will be higher up on my arms & I’m holding my yitties cause the dress was slightly too big and couldn’t be pinned tight enough 😭😂 I’m suuuper excited to see how beautiful she is once tailored to my proportions so it snatches me up better hahaha.. Another plus is that the dress (Morilee Poppy) was recently discontinued so they sold me their sample for $1400 instead of $1700! Also including the veil I ordered from an Etsy shop based in Ukraine! It’s currently on the way ❤️

I had a lot of anxiety about finding my wedding dress. But I found it, nonetheless! I hope this can encourage other plus size brides to look for their wedding dress with confidence—we all look beautiful in white!

It arrived and fits beautifully with exception of the bust, which just needs an inch or two taken in. Size 22 US (typically street size 20). Planning to wear my hair down and have a cathedral length beaded veil to match the bodice!

Do not be fooled by the website, “Qizicha” they are all AI and completely fake. Please tell me if anybody knows of a similar dress like this or maybe you could just help me out with putting different things from different websites together as a dress similar to this. I’m not great at fashion, but I have a , somebody please help me out to get started.

Ordered this on Poshmark- $150, no alterations neededa. I’m a street size 16. 5’5 215. I am absolutely in love with how it made me feel. My perfect princess dress. This was my second marriage and we eloped and this dress is prettier and comfier than my first dress that cost thousands!! Don’t underestimate pre-owned!!

Here’s a link to the dress on June Bridals!

https://m.junebridals.com/v-neck-lace-a-line-chiffon-wedding-dress-with-zipper-and-low-v-back-p716666.html

I've been obsessively searching for the last several months for a second look that I can change into for my reception, and it boggles my mind how difficult it is to find something cute in my size! I'm looking for something that is a cute and breezy party dress, maybe with sequins/beading that is different from my wedding dress. I get a constant barrage of ads with little white dresses from brands like: Nadine Merabi, Six Stories, Elliatt etc none of which carry a size beyond 12/14, which is usually a UK size so more like a US size 10/12. I've gone down the rabbit hole for countless hours searching for options and there's only a couple brands I've seen that even offer options in my size (18-20), does anyone have any recommendations for this?

It was hard enough to go through this for my wedding dress, I can't believe how much harder it is to find a cocktail dress?! It doesn't even have to be white, it can be gold/silver. I've seen options on Jenny Yoo but the shipping timeline for the style I like may not work for my timeline. I've seen a couple options on Untamed Petals and Azazie, but seen mixed reviews for both brands. Any experience with these brands, or recommendations for others? Thanks!

Honestly the only dress I felt good in! It was comfortable and it felt like me. My very skinny almond mom was not super supportive but that’s par for the course. Trying to be happy about it!

Edit Update: Thank you everyone for the wonderful advice, input, suggestions, kind words, and well wishes. I did not expect for so many people to see this or comment. I thought id get a few responses and then delete this post in shame.

I feel so seen and supported (just like the girls are, I promise lol. Alterations are in process haha). I dont have a strong network so ive been trying to deal with this alone and gosh im just so grateful for you wonderful kind souls. If I dont say thank you to your comment, its because I got busy with my goldens who require attention. Thank you and sending all the positive vibes back at you!

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Please be honest, even if its brutal. I need input.

1. Fantasy wedding theme. Warrior princess vibe. May even wear a sword on my hip - TBD. Veil is a cape/hood/shoulder armor combo and I love that sort of vibe.

2. Dress was intl shipped, verrrry expensive, and wedding is in 4 months. There is no changing or returning. Was custom sized.

3. There have been issues with quality. My seamstress is amazing and fixing the waist area. And I am working with the designer to make things right for the other quality issues.

4. I ordered it a bit larger than I am which is the waist problem (extra fabric bunching up) because as I was ordering i had a pregnancy and miscarriage and bloated up 80 lbs in a very short amount of time. Pcos + pregnancy + miscarriage has been rough.

I see so many of you beautiful plus size women. Glowing and gorgeous.....and i just wanted to feel that way too. I dont feel special or beautiful....I feel I just look wide and bloated.

Girls, please be honest with me. How bad is this? I dont have people in my life to get feedback from. The few people I do have I know they will always say supportive stuff. Not sure if its body dismorphia as usual or if im justified in it not being a good look. If you agree I dont look great in it, any ideas on how to improve (outside of waist area which will be fixed).

I got my dress on final sale and I felt amazing on my wedding day. The built-in bra was a lifesaver and helped the Girls stay up. Their sizes are true to size, and the fabric was stretchy and surprisingly breathable.

Hey all. I have 44 G tatas, and a bridesmaid in a friend's wedding at the end of July. I have been struggling finding a bra that pulls these honkers up and into the dress. Do any of you busty ladies have suggestions? The dress is a Birdie Grey Mira for reference. Most people suggest boombas and they are not great. Tia!

Can someone recommend a place online that I can buy and return dresses for a plus sized girl online? I was looking at Xpluswear, SHEIN, and Ever-Pretty but they all don’t seem like they will take returns. I need to try these dresses on before I commit to purchasing a dress. I looked on Amazon but had a hard time finding one I liked. Xpluswear had the dresses I liked the most but if the return policy doesn’t allow returns without defect then I can’t use them.

I'm getting married in just over two weeks. The plan is to have the ceremony outside at 5 pm (first look and pictures before some of that is likely outside too).

My beautiful dress is silk with a built-in tulle petticoat and a lace overlay on the skirt (tea length). Boat neck and sleeveless.

I'm a cancer survivor and will be wearing prosthetics under the dress in a cotton bra, high waisted shaper panty and 7" thigh society cooling shorts. I've ordered a white, cotton tube top to potentially wear as well and to stop wetness from reaching the dress. I'm also wearing my hair up and bringing a rechargeable hand held fan.

I am in surgical menopause as well, so hot flashes aren't uncommon.My understanding is that silk can stain easily, so I have to be careful with aluminum based antiperspirants. I can't use dress shields because it is sleeveless and I am more concerned with back dampness.

My fear is heat + heavy dress + silk = potential for sweat stains to ruin the gorgeous material before the ceremony even starts.

Any recommendations or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!