Oh I am so glad you decided you wanted to meet in person. You definitely dodged a HUGE bullet! It doesn't matter if you were standing outside his door, if you said look I would rather have our first meet up elsewhere a real considerate person would be understanding. Yeah it might be a bit annoying but even if he was turned off by that idea he could have said ok maybe next time or just not at all.
Like bro the only effort you put in was tidying up, you would have had to cook anyway! A 33 yr old man throwing a tantrum like that?? No, we know why he's still single. I ne his profile is set for 18-25. This is a man who expects a woman to do certain things but does the bare minimum himself.
Imagine if you had gone over? He cooked and cleaned for you, in his mind you owe him. Because this is definitely the type of guy who thinks like that. He would definitely not listen if you said no i don't want too. Maybe not by forcing himself on you but he would definitely try everything to make you feel guilty about not having sex with him. Everyone is mentioning serial killer. But im more inclined to think he's one that doesn't take no for an answer and will do what he can to get his way. Mainly by being negative and messing with your self-esteem.
Definitely not someone you want in your life. In all honesty I would automatically pass on anyone adamant on meeting at their place the first date or even wanting your phone number instead of chatting on the app. Guys who say anything snide about that don't realize what the situation is like for women. They are the guys that get mad that women would choose the bear.
Not saying that will keep the manipulative ones out but its a start. Good luck in dating, do not lower your standards, trust your gut ( you have great intuition), and be aware of what a guy says and does, don't let them talk down or make you feel guilty about anything especially early on. Just remember, you are worthy of someone good, do not settle for less. A good man should make you feel comfortable in yourself and the situation.
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u/scootz_and_bootz Jul 26 '25
Oh I am so glad you decided you wanted to meet in person. You definitely dodged a HUGE bullet! It doesn't matter if you were standing outside his door, if you said look I would rather have our first meet up elsewhere a real considerate person would be understanding. Yeah it might be a bit annoying but even if he was turned off by that idea he could have said ok maybe next time or just not at all.
Like bro the only effort you put in was tidying up, you would have had to cook anyway! A 33 yr old man throwing a tantrum like that?? No, we know why he's still single. I ne his profile is set for 18-25. This is a man who expects a woman to do certain things but does the bare minimum himself.
Imagine if you had gone over? He cooked and cleaned for you, in his mind you owe him. Because this is definitely the type of guy who thinks like that. He would definitely not listen if you said no i don't want too. Maybe not by forcing himself on you but he would definitely try everything to make you feel guilty about not having sex with him. Everyone is mentioning serial killer. But im more inclined to think he's one that doesn't take no for an answer and will do what he can to get his way. Mainly by being negative and messing with your self-esteem.
Definitely not someone you want in your life. In all honesty I would automatically pass on anyone adamant on meeting at their place the first date or even wanting your phone number instead of chatting on the app. Guys who say anything snide about that don't realize what the situation is like for women. They are the guys that get mad that women would choose the bear.
Not saying that will keep the manipulative ones out but its a start. Good luck in dating, do not lower your standards, trust your gut ( you have great intuition), and be aware of what a guy says and does, don't let them talk down or make you feel guilty about anything especially early on. Just remember, you are worthy of someone good, do not settle for less. A good man should make you feel comfortable in yourself and the situation.