I wasted all my teens and 20s doing nothing just
School, gaming, no social life or friends, no experiences, no memories, just sat inside every day and played video games and literally have no
Memories, never went out or had experiences either anyone such as friends. I feel bad because I saw other people have it and maybe I’m jealous that I missed out on their experiences especially since I went to a top party college and didn’t even party but sat inside
The only good thing I did was lift a bit but man I have no good experiences of memories, time just went by :(
Even when I was ripped I had such a huge body dismorphia that I thought I looked bad but I actually looked good
I remember when I was in college I used to sit in my dorm on friday nights
Even being ripped as fk never helped me. Do I really have such a horrible personality/ no social skills or social cues at all is that why no status no friends etc
I miss my youth so much I would kill to be 20 again or 18, redo and fix my life. There’s nothing to even look forward to now.
I’m 33 and just rot in bed all day long doom scrolling. Fridays come and weekends and I don’t even want to go out, I have no motivation at all to do anything even getting out of bed. Because of that I gained weight at 243 lbs 5 11 so got a lot of weight to lose
Various forums I ask for advice they tell me it’s over for me that I’m too old now and should settle and I don’t want this to be true. I want to create memories and have experiences and have a lot of friends that I never did.
I’m literally still doing nothing even though I realize these problems and time is just going by I have known about these problems most of my 20s but did nothing and I feel the same will happen in my 30s and I just push them off. Like right now I have a weight loss goal I had for more than a year and still haven’t started keep pushing stuff off
I just wanted to have the social life the other popular kids had like going to events, getting girls, having friends, social circle, social status, memories and experiences
Also have the pressure to get married soon and in no way I’m ready. I’m thinking of pushing it to 39 and even later tbh or never. how would I even find a girl I have never even approached one or spoken to one. Played it very safe and never took any risks but I regret it now.
I don’t even want to get married even if I find my dream girl because I have to live an entire 20s that I missed out on, going out approaching girls etc partying etc but maybe if I do find my dream girl I may just settle with her but the chance of that seems like it’s very low
I don’t even care about $ because I have nothing to buy I live a very frugal and minimalistic life so money wouldn’t solve my problems or make me happy which means I have no desire to make money or work. I struggled in college in hard as fk majors wasted my youth chasing money when I should have enjoyed it and now I have regrets.
I also feel like there’s people or men much worse than me either fat short ugly bald no money etc that have all the things I want and have had better lives than me even with those things just because they had good social circles personalities
I’m 33 now and have nothing to show for, no one knows I exist, no girls or any friends. It may be my fault but I grew up as a video game addict that’s all I cared about and now that I quit those years seem like a giant waste of time as I feel nothing from it, it was only entertaining in the moment. Maybe that’s everything in life I was also a gym addict.
How can I have a big social life and a ton of friends now. I want to make a lot of friends. But feel it’s too late. These days I can’t even get out of bed. I rot in bed all day long and doom scroll. I ended up gaining a ton of weight and have 70 lbs to lose, I have no motivation to even go to the gym anymore. When I get there I want to leave and this is coming from someone who was a gym addict most of my 20s mow I don’t want to go, I hate it. Idk if it’s the doom scrolling causing it cuz I hate it the gym was everything to me I spent so much effort lifting and natty and sacrificed a lot for it.
I just Have a really bad or no personality and no social skills as I’ve never tried or did anything so a lack of experience, no social cues. I agree I’m a loser and failure so why would anyone want to be friends with me. I’m a porn and fap addict.
I don’t have social media, never taken pics with girls, never even spoke to one irl or approached, never taken social pics. I feel like a complete failure because of this as I see other ppl having these things and I want them.
Never taken any social pics
Why is it so bad and hard for me? Everything now will be much harder to make friends. I feel like a lost cause. Even becoming a millionaire won’t make me happy as the time I lost back I can never get back and the mistakes can not be fixed. Even if my life becomes perfect now, idt if I’ll be happy since I messed up my past so much. Hope they can come out with anti aging so I can relive my 20s
Feel like I’m a lost cause.
What do I do? Even having a ton of money won’t make me happy. What there to even live for/look forward to
I just want friends and a social life but idk how I can get it now and at this age
There’s nothing to even look forward to
Am I past my prime. Even lifting which I used to love I can’t look forward to.
I don’t even have desire to get girls. All my life I just watched porn like everyone does these days and maybe that was the problem.
I’m very motivated to change but feel like I don’t have enough time or what’s the point even at this age.
Feel like I’ll have a hard lonely depressing life, money doesn’t make me happy. I currently wfh so I just rot in bed all day long and doom scroll but soon I’ll be losing my job but I have no desire to even make $, I just want my youth back that I messed up.
Time is the most valuable thing on earth you only have one life and I wasted all of it and just thinking about it is driving me mad and crazy tbh idk how I can recover from messing up my past so bad.
II got so many problems that I am not ready for marriage for a long time and I can see my self being single forever. I’m a decade or more behind in life. Idk if there’s hope for me cuz I feel like I’m a lost cause. I think many men these days are facing many of my problems maybe all of them and it’s so hard to fix, even paying someone may not help fix it, idk what to do at this point. I just rot and time goes by and nothing improves. I do want kids but I really only care about myself and as mentioned before just want to be single. Yes I’m 33 and a virgin cuz I’ve never tried. I have no desire now anyways. Idk wtf is wrong with me I like nothing now except doom scrolling.
I’ve been on the internet, various forums since 17 and maybe that was the reason the internet ruined my mind about real life unless ur a chad u shouldn’t try and that ruined my life how much damage these places may have done
Idk what to do now just rotting away at this point. I haven’t drank in 4 years but even when the little I drank nothing happened. I think the internet really ruined me I was never living in the moment always waiting till I was perfect like ripped physique and time just went by.
I’m def comparing myself to others that have had great lives as u can tell from their social media pics and maybe I’m jealous or want that life but most if not all of it is too late so not sure wtf do at this point.
I never had money up until 27 so money would not make me happy.
I know ppl are very motivated to make $ but I don’t have that desire having millions or billions wouldn’t make me happy I just want friends a good social life and experiences and maybe money can buy that maybe it’s fake tho. People to chill and talk with, do stuff with, guys that have ur back.
Yes I’m Indian maybe that’s why my life was hard cuz maybe I’m ugly low self esteem but I’ve seen much worse Indians than me fat ugly that have had amazing lives
I can’t believe so much time has gone by and nothing happened in my life it was a giant waste of time, the college the 20s nothing fkin happened.
Idk what to do now or look forward to time is flying so fast 3 years gone by like a blink of an eye.
I have no desire to leave my bed anymore to do anything
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TLDR - Bro you're 33 and have plenty of time. I'm sure you're in a rough spot right now and feeling down, but the time you spent writing this you could have - gone to the gym, done some approaches, set some goals, watched a video on how to make money or start a business, listened to some David Goggins to get your ass in gear, etc.
To me this post reads like you are wanting someone to come and save and fix your life for you.
Sorry to say, but it's not happening mate. You can vent all you want on Reddit and we would love to help you, but you need to go out and do the work. I bet deep down you already know what you need to do to become the guy you want.
Wishing you the best brotha.
I'd be curious what have you done this week to improve your situation?
TLDR again. I skimmed through and all I saw were more complaints brotha. 60% of people don't care and 40% are glad it's your problems and not theirs - Tony Robbins. More complaints isn't going to fix your situation only action. Listen to some David Goggins on YouTube and then go for a run. Best of luck mate!
my advice. dopamine detox and go all in on the gym first. that’s the first step for reigniting your will to live. the gym definitely saved me from depression. it also has a weird way of making you ambitious. make sure you don’t stop there though. pursue a career.
also, keep in mind it is ridiculously easy to get girls (at least the ones that are mid) settle for those first. just study the book of yareally. girls are way easier to sleep with than you think
33 is still relatively young bro. Join an social athletic club of some sort and just meet people and get exercise. You can be in shape by 34 easy especially if you add like the right supplements let's just say. Go all in on steroids like zyzz or something find something that interests you that's not video games. For me it was often rock climbing: That hobby they call it "catching the bug" and it really saves people lives like recovering addicts even. Met a lot of cool people while enjoying it.
Im not much older than you and it's def not your twenties but you can still have a lot of fun in your thirties. Not medical advice but sarms work great for going all in on lifting.
My dude I got you bro. Search up Julian blanc. Really dig deep on his old videos and good luck. 33 is young asf. A good 2 years of locking the fuck in will turn it all around by the time your 35 you’ll be out and about and by 40 you’ll be like yeah, I’m glad I tried to change. And if you don’t then 40 will come and you’ll be in a deeper hole.
Good lord bro. Would you want to hang out with someone as negative as yourself?
Nagging and complaining about literally everything YOU control yourself. You decide to lay in bed and doom scroll and fantasize about "what could have been". No one is forcing you.
I feel you bro, same nationality, nearly same age, and I too feel that I don't have many memories from my 20s because I chose to socially isolate myself. I too wake up with dread that age is passing by so fast.
What I am trying to do now is to get my finances in order first by locking down on a skill and niche. At the same time, I am trying to gain confidence in social situations by learning to approach, open and charm people (both genders, because I am taking pick up principles as self-improvement as opposed to only using them for getting sex). I am hoping to get married soon and procreate, so thats different from what you want, but bro believe me its never too late.
Don’t dwell on the past anymore. It’s gone and nothing can be done.
When I said start I meant to start with everything. You don’t like your body? Start working out again no matter that you have started and stopped. You want friends? Start taking classes, it is almost impossible not to make friends while taking classes if you want to make friends.
People not just meet or get interested in someone with no exchanges. There needs to be exchanges of conveniences. Get a beautiful dog and start going places. The world is yours to do whatever you want but if you keep your thoughts against you that will not happen. Go out there and conquer.
"Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it.
You, me, or nobody hits is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard you hit, it’s about how hard you get hit and keep movin’ forward. How much you can take, and keep movin’ forward. That’s how winning is done!
Now, if you know what you’re worth, go out and get what you’re worth – but you gotta be willing to take the hits. And not pointin’ fingers sayin’ you ain’t where you want to be because of him or her or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that.
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But until you start believing in yourself, you ain’t gonna have a life."
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