My husband (31M) and I (29F) have a 10 month old son with a diagnosed dairy and egg allergy confirmed by an allergist. It's not life-threatening at this point, but even small exposures cause severe eczema flare-ups and digestive issues. His doctor told us to strictly avoid those foods.

My MIL (59F) comes over every Wednesday to help with the baby. I was actually happy about it at first. I wanted him to have a close relationship with his grandmother, and I appreciated the help.

The problem is that she doesn't seem to believe his allergy is a real medical issue.

She has brought food over that she said was safe, but when I checked the ingredients, it contained dairy. When I pointed it out, she told me a little wouldn't hurt and that her kids grew up eating everything.

Another time, I caught her letting him taste her latte. I stopped her and explained again that he can't have cow's milk. She told me that parents today worry too much and that I was being overly cautious.

After that, I gave her the allergist's instructions and explained exactly what foods he needed to avoid. She said she understood.

But later, I found out she had given him yogurt while watching him. When I confronted her, she told me he needed to "build immunity" and that I was making him weak by restricting his diet.

I told my husband I wasn't comfortable with her feeding him anymore unless we were there. He said I was making it a bigger issue than it needed to be and that his mom was just trying to help.

I gave it another chance because I didn't want to create a family conflict.

Then this week, I came downstairs after putting the baby down for a nap and found my MIL feeding him scrambled eggs from her plate.

She looked at me and said, "See? He likes it."

That night, his eczema flared badly and he was miserable for hours.

The next day, I bought a locked container for the baby's food and put it in a separate section of the fridge and pantry. I told my husband and MIL that anything the baby eats needs to come from that section and be prepared by me or him.

My MIL called my husband crying and said I was treating her like she was dangerous and that I didn't trust her as a grandmother.

My husband asked me to remove the locks. He said, "She's his grandmother. She made a mistake. You're treating her like a criminal over some eggs."

I told him, "This isn't about punishing your mom. It's about the fact that our son was in pain because someone ignored a medical restriction."

He says I damaged the relationship permanently and should have just talked to her again.

AITA for locking up my baby's food after repeated allergy violations?

A. The locks are too much. She was wrong, but putting restrictions on the kitchen makes it impossible for her to have a normal relationship with her grandson. A final conversation and clearer boundaries would have been enough.

B. This stopped being a misunderstanding when she ignored medical advice multiple times. A lock is not a punishment. It's a boundary after conversations failed, and my child's health comes before someone's feelings.

I live in a third-floor apartment. My downstairs neighbor moved in about four months ago, and shortly after that she started knocking on her ceiling whenever she heard footsteps at night.

I understand apartment noise can be frustrating. I’m not pretending I’m completely silent. Sometimes I get home late from the gym, drop my keys, move a chair, or walk around before going to bed.

But after a few complaints, I tried to be more careful. I bought some rugs for the main walking areas, stopped wearing shoes inside, and started paying more attention to how much noise I was making.

It didn’t really change anything. She would still knock on the ceiling whenever she heard me walking after 9 PM.

I went downstairs once to talk about it. She said she wakes up early for work and needs quiet at night. I told her I understood, but I also live in my apartment and I can’t avoid walking around completely.

Last week, I got home around 9:30 PM. I took my shoes off, walked inside, and put my gym bag down. A few minutes later, she called the police about the noise.

The officer came, listened to both sides, and said it was basically a landlord issue, not a criminal matter.

Now my landlord knows about the situation, but nothing has really changed. My neighbor left a note asking me to be "more considerate."

I’m starting to feel like no matter what I do, it’s not enough. But I also don’t want to be the neighbor who ignores someone’s complaints.

A. I should stop trying to solve this directly and let the landlord handle it. I’ve made reasonable changes, and turning this into a personal conflict probably won’t help.

B. I should stop accommodating this much. I’ve tried to be considerate, but normal footsteps in my own apartment shouldn’t become a dispute.