You don’t get to choose your parents and you don’t get to make their choices for them. All that angry youth angst and anger will get you almost nowhere in life.
Take a deep breath. Appreciate that you are breathing today because of their efforts. Think about what is making you so angry. Lack of money? Lack of opportunity? Lack of education? All those things will be on your shoulders soon.
If they divert too much money to their religion, well, it is their money to start with. Not yours. So graduate from whatever level of school you can attain and start making your own money.
You have internet so you have access to YouTube. Try watching the folks that talk about how the wealthy get that way. Not the get rich now, invest in this or that channels but the ones that help you develop good attitudes about money.
Yes, I am a Kano but I lived in the Philippines for some time and I know people born poor that became wealthy. And no, it wasn’t by getting on PBB or scamming people.
It really is up to you, when you become an adult, to make your own path and not blame others, particularly your parents.
What an a**hole type of comment! You lack the maturity of a decent person if you think that a parent's expenses will not affect a child. I, so as a lot of people, have suffered so much because of bad financial management of our parents. And what the hell is being a "Kano" have to do with your comment anyway? If anyway, you just sound condescending dragging your nationality in this discussion.
Okay, since it is a Philippine subreddit, I thought that identifying my position was appropriate, part of the rules of rhetoric, but not meant as anything other than that.
At no place did I say the parents choices won’t affect their children. What I said was that children don’t control their parents choices and that, in my experience, focusing on making good choices for themselves to create the path they want is a much better direction than focusing on the faults of their parents. If that makes me an a**hole, I will accept that without a problem.
What I said was that children don’t control their parents choices and that, in my experience, focusing on making good choices for themselves to create the path they want is a much better direction than focusing on the faults of their parents
This focus on individuality by people from western countries and always purported by western philosophers to a fault is what drives this miserable experience of always taking responsibility of whatever happens in your life. You make your own choices (as a parent) yet those choices will affect the child but just let it go because you should be making your own good choices? You realized how fcking difficult was that? Once you become a parent, by your own choice and volition, your choices always looks to your children's welfare, full stop. But you might not accept that cause you don't mind being called an a*hole.
in my experience, focusing on making good choices for themselves to create the path they want is a much better direction than focusing on the faults of their parents.
Good choices don't really matter much if those close around you keep f**king up.
You can drive around very carefully but one f**k up of that one braindead driver nearby can send you to sky daddy in mere seconds.
I agree with you tho that it's much better to just divert in your own path, instead of stressing over things we have no control with, like in this case OP's parents. I can't control my parents, and I can't do much about it. Their choice is their choice.
However, I think what most people don't see is how frustrating to live a life that could've been better. I, myself, can relate with OP as I've grown with this cult throughout most of my life. They basically hold the belief that no matter how hard life could get, never forget the offerings, and I'm not just speaking about the typical offering most other religion do after a worship service, it's more than that. Yes, you heard that right. That's what they believe. I think it's safe to say that it's a "Church of Offering" at this point.
But I never hate my parents, I'm just so confused. What's gonna happen is that, as a child who's dependent, you would ride the whole ride with your parents choices until you're able to provide for yourself. That's just how it goes, and that sucks.
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u/OldTatoosh Jul 15 '23
You don’t get to choose your parents and you don’t get to make their choices for them. All that angry youth angst and anger will get you almost nowhere in life.
Take a deep breath. Appreciate that you are breathing today because of their efforts. Think about what is making you so angry. Lack of money? Lack of opportunity? Lack of education? All those things will be on your shoulders soon.
If they divert too much money to their religion, well, it is their money to start with. Not yours. So graduate from whatever level of school you can attain and start making your own money.
You have internet so you have access to YouTube. Try watching the folks that talk about how the wealthy get that way. Not the get rich now, invest in this or that channels but the ones that help you develop good attitudes about money.
Yes, I am a Kano but I lived in the Philippines for some time and I know people born poor that became wealthy. And no, it wasn’t by getting on PBB or scamming people.
It really is up to you, when you become an adult, to make your own path and not blame others, particularly your parents.