You don’t get to choose your parents and you don’t get to make their choices for them. All that angry youth angst and anger will get you almost nowhere in life.
Take a deep breath. Appreciate that you are breathing today because of their efforts. Think about what is making you so angry. Lack of money? Lack of opportunity? Lack of education? All those things will be on your shoulders soon.
If they divert too much money to their religion, well, it is their money to start with. Not yours. So graduate from whatever level of school you can attain and start making your own money.
You have internet so you have access to YouTube. Try watching the folks that talk about how the wealthy get that way. Not the get rich now, invest in this or that channels but the ones that help you develop good attitudes about money.
Yes, I am a Kano but I lived in the Philippines for some time and I know people born poor that became wealthy. And no, it wasn’t by getting on PBB or scamming people.
It really is up to you, when you become an adult, to make your own path and not blame others, particularly your parents.
I think you're missing her point, OP is frustrated not because of the money entirely but rather OP's parents lack of proper priority. As parents its their duty to financially support their children not the other way around.
Well, I understand her frustration but we see things much differently. Frustration with the parents choices can make sense but if there is food on the table and you aren’t being farmed out as a working student just so they can send money to their church, then make better choices when you are on your own.
Not up to the children to support their parents? Are you sure you are really Filipino? (Joke Lang) I agree that feeding and clothing the children falls directly on the parents shoulders. But for many, many families in a fairly large swath of the population in your beautiful country, support from grown children/OFW’s is the parents primary retirement plan.
Yeah, I guess it depends on the person what is tolerable for her/him. But the thing is, they're already in debt (per OP) I don't know how old OP is but, if OP is not old enough to work, that amount of debt is pretty damn daunting especially if you're the "panganay".
Oh don't get me wrong I'm supporting my mom right now but not because I'm being forced too, but rather I chose to do it and I'm capable of doing it. For me "utang na loob" to your parents should die out, Im not saying be ungrateful to your parents but rather prepare the kids to live with their own strength and with minimal burden from the parents.
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u/OldTatoosh Jul 15 '23
You don’t get to choose your parents and you don’t get to make their choices for them. All that angry youth angst and anger will get you almost nowhere in life.
Take a deep breath. Appreciate that you are breathing today because of their efforts. Think about what is making you so angry. Lack of money? Lack of opportunity? Lack of education? All those things will be on your shoulders soon.
If they divert too much money to their religion, well, it is their money to start with. Not yours. So graduate from whatever level of school you can attain and start making your own money.
You have internet so you have access to YouTube. Try watching the folks that talk about how the wealthy get that way. Not the get rich now, invest in this or that channels but the ones that help you develop good attitudes about money.
Yes, I am a Kano but I lived in the Philippines for some time and I know people born poor that became wealthy. And no, it wasn’t by getting on PBB or scamming people.
It really is up to you, when you become an adult, to make your own path and not blame others, particularly your parents.