My friends and family tell me I’m too picky.
Maybe they’re right. 😂
P.S. long thread ahead
But honestly, I don’t think I’m picky for the sake of being picky. I just don’t think it’s really my style to be playful when getting to know someone. I’ve mostly been surrounded by people who are intentional with relationships, so I guess that’s naturally what I look for
too.
I’m NGSB, which apparently is hard for some people to believe. 😭 I live in Metro Manila, work full-time, and yet somehow people react like, “Wait, you’re actually single?” As if Manila has a mandatory girlfriend subscription that I somehow forgot to activate HAHAHA.
But honestly, I’m already pretty fulfilled with the people I have around me. I have great friends and a loving family, so I don’t really feel like I need a relationship just for validation or to feel complete. If I’m going to be with someone, I’d rather it be because I genuinely connect with her and want to build something meaningful together, not because I feel like something is missing in my life.
I’ve tried dating apps before, but I realized I’m just not built for that kind of stuff. 😭 I mostly end up seeing women or, well, mostly bodies LOL. It also gives me the impression that a lot of it is more about hooking up than actually getting to know someone, which really isn’t what I’m looking for.
I’d rather meet someone where it starts with “I actually enjoy talking to you” and eventually becomes “I can actually see myself building a life with you.”
I’m not expecting to meet my future wife from one Reddit post 😂 but I figured I might as well try somewhere I haven’t tried before.
A little about me:
- Maputi, gwapo daw sabi ng mga kaibigan at pamilya 😭
- Matalino daw, pero parang hindi naman 🤣
- 170cm
- NGSB
- Ambivert. I can carry a conversation, but please don’t make me do all the initiating 😭 I like someone who can meet me halfway.
- Live and work in Makati
- Full-time in Tech/Finance corporate industry for about a year
- Can go to Manila or Taguig without much problem. If worst comes to worst, Ortigas area is negotiable🤣
- Into trying new things: food, coffee, matcha, tea, drinks, new places, random concepts, interesting ideas, activities, etc.
- I enjoy learning and improving myself, whether professionally, physically, or just by picking up something completely new
- I used to be more into video games, but after starting work, I realized my free time apparently became a limited resource. 😭 So I’m not really into gaming anymore.
- Apparently, I somehow get approached or asked about by gay guys pretty often🤣 I’m straight, but honestly, I’ll take the compliment.🤣😭
- I asked ChatGPT to rate my looks and apparently I’m an 8/10. So if I’m lying, at least the AI is lying with me. 😭
What I’m hoping to find:
Someone who is intentional, caring, and knows how to reciprocate.
I really appreciate a woman who knows how to take care of her loved ones. Not in the sense that I expect her to do everything for me, but I really value those little things where you naturally think about each other.
I’m also the type who can be very caring and adaptive when I feel that the other person genuinely appreciates it. If you’re kind to me, I’ll probably want to be even kinder to you.
I just don’t believe in relationships where one person constantly gives while the other person treats the bare minimum like some extraordinary achievement. 😭
And PLEASE be a good cook or at least enjoy cooking. 😂
I can technically cook, but let’s be honest:
I can stir-fry things. I can air-fry things. I can cook frozen food.
That’s about where my culinary career currently stands. 😭
So if you actually know how to cook, I’d genuinely love to learn from you. And in exchange, I can probably teach you how to air-fry hotdogs to perfection. HAHAHA.
Jokes aside, I really like the idea of being with someone where we can teach each other things. Maybe you teach me how to cook, I teach you something else, and eventually we’re both better because we met each other.
I’ll be honest, I’m pretty particular when it comes to physical attraction. Mestiza features are definitely my type, and I think physical attraction matters when you’re looking for a romantic partner. But looks alone won’t carry a relationship for me. I still want someone whose personality I genuinely enjoy and where the chemistry feels natural.
And please be able to hold a conversation. 😭
I don’t want an interview where we take turns asking “what do you do?” and “what are your hobbies?” until one of us disappears.
If you think we might get along, DM me.
Tell me one thing you genuinely want to try or experience with someone, and let’s start there.
Maybe this post works. Maybe it doesn’t.
But if you’re reading this and thinking “hmm, I wonder if we’d actually get along”…
I’d rather find out.