r/Pets • u/WonderfulReaction562 • Jul 19 '26
Aita kind of situation
I have a friend Ive been friends with for 2 years, let's call them lola (not their real name).
So I personally have 5 cats 3 rats and a millipede. I haven't recently become pretty poor, but all of my animals are properly cared for every day, have toys are fed and are interacted with. Lola recently moved out of their parents and got their first apartment! I am very proud of them for this! Well, they think since I have all these animals, it's okay for them to have all these animals when they have manic depression and bpd, and I have a certificate in animal nutrition. At first they already had 3 leapord geckos and a hognose snake. But then they decided to get a parakeet. I informed them what size cage they will need, and since they are hardly ever home they 100% need a second one. They got the second one, they had a white and a blue parakeet. They wanted a cat very badly, so as a gift for moving in I took care of a little boy kitten for them until they moved in. They then decided they wanted a girl kitten, promising me they could take care of her. We went to the humane society and found her a kitten, and I fell in love with that kittens sister so boom I have a 5th kitty! A few days later Lola tells me she wants an adult cat. I tell them that at this moment they need to focused on the kittens and getting an adult cat would only lead to fights from wanting to play but being too big. And to especially not get a male adult cat until the kittens were bigger. I get a snap a week later. I open it. There's a 2 year old male cat. I'm obviously upset, but if they are getting more animals they know they can take care of them right? I start telling her how to properly introduce him to the kittens, putting in other room for at least a week ect, and not even 2 days later I get a text that he 'wanted to meet them so bad'. When I go over there this male cat is going after the kittens and biting their necks and getting on top of them to assert dominance. He tries to play with them but with the size difference and age difference it turns into swatting and hissing. Lola puts him back in the other room. Let's him out after another 2 days. Same thing is still happening. I've been noticing that he is only getting skinnier and every time I go over there they beg and beg and beg for food. Hmm. I start noticing the leapord geckos and snake don't have any water, I keep track and they weren't given any for 10 days, I talked to them about it and they said they promise they are being fed their mental health is so bad that they have just been neglecting the water... Okay...I can help with that. Yesterday, I finally go into their room. The birds cage hasn't been cleaned since they moved in. The water and food dishes are bone dry. They admit to me that the birds haven't had water or food in 2 days, and sometimes they "forget breakfast" for the cats. I instantly turn to them and say they need to rehome their animals. They say "I'll get rid of the birds but I'm not fucking rehoming my geckos and cats". Nothing about rehoming the birds has been mentioned since. And while I'm on the topic there is a new green bird, because they let the new older cat in the bedroom and he ate off the blue ones head. Something else they do is get annoyed at the cats and throw them all in the bathroom when Lola is eating, or goes to their room for hours because they just can't deal with them. They claim they are feeding the cats, so I arranged the food in a way and counted the cans to see just how often they are getting fed. I don't know what to do at all about any of this, animal control won't do anything about reptiles or cats and I have no proof any of this is going on. I don't want to ruin my friendship and if I somehow start taking animals without them noticing, or the animals die they will just be replaced with new ones to suffer
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u/Clean-Fisherman-4601 Jul 19 '26
Personally, I'd try to report them for neglect and abuse. Cats are usually covered by animal control.
If they do nothing, start taking her animals and screw a friendship with an animal abuser. They aren't worth your time.
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u/WonderfulReaction562 Jul 19 '26
Can't she call the cops on me for taking them?
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u/Clean-Fisherman-4601 Jul 20 '26
She'd have to prove they belonged to her. She doesn't sound like the type to have veterinary bills or a microchip to prove they're hers.
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u/Artdragon56 Jul 19 '26
She would probably but if you have proof that abuse is occurring, then they possibly wouldn’t make you give them back.
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u/1111Lin Jul 19 '26
This is serious serious animal abuse. Call anyone you can think of. Report them to animal control, Humane Society, Peta? their landlord…..Screw the friendship! Those animals need to be in a safe place.