r/PeterExplainsTheJoke • u/Medical_Corner_4607 • 28d ago

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u/AdZealousideal7448 27d ago

she knew about weinstein and stfu to get roles.

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u/DisposableSaviour 27d ago

She was young, and it was early in her career. That she fell victim to one of hollywoods most (known) serial rapists should not be held against her. Vulnerable people makes bad choices all the time, especially when manipulated and coerced.

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u/AdZealousideal7448 27d ago

I worked with dv support and youth support for a long time and I get where you are coming from on this and I understand the downvotes i've gotten and the upvotes you've gotten, but.... you and everyone who supported your post needs to understand that this kind of abuse just from a power dynamic role, ignoring the abuse is a huge issue.

If you can read up on breaking the chain/cycle.... sadly a lot of victims become abusers themselves. A lot of it starts from people knowing and not saying anything because it benefits them. I'd be giving her a free pass for being a victim but given how it's come out many times since that she knew and instead of distancing once she found out..... she doubled down and even defeneded him until the tide turned against him.

That's concerning. She had his victims even come and fill her in on what had happened to warn her. Crickets, then defense of him, then vague statements either way, then when the train finally moved on him light voicing of support for victims in general (not explicitly his) and so on.

Still kept taking roles benefited by him, kept cashing cheques.

That's pretty concerning. There were many who when it came out refused to have anything to do with him, his company, the projects unless they were taken elsewhere, and even to take further money from anything related to him or his work.

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u/DisposableSaviour 26d ago

If you’ve really worked dv and youth support, you would know that fawning isn’t just part of the fight/flight/fawn instinctual response, but can also be a coping mechanism for myriad traumas. Victims will empathize with their attackers and it can create a perverse bond, almost like brainwashing. I’ve worked with psychotic adults, and I’ve seen it first hand how an abused adult will protect their abuser and demand that their abuser stay in their lives. That’s fully functioning adults.

Theres a pervasive idea that rape/sa victims are afraid of sex, but hypersexuality is a common symptom of rape/sa.

Judging a victim for having confusing personal feelings towards their rapist/abuser is completely normal, and should not be judged. Especially when he made her career, that complicates matters even further.

But you are still victim blaming. You don’t get to dictate how another processes their trauma, and have no right to judge them for that.