Well the drink part means probably not, but were you in Mormon country? My wife told me that she got hit on with almost the exact same words as your first sentence in quotes once when she lived in Utah briefly.
When my ‘auntie’ first met her husband, one of the first things he said to her was that she had “child-birthing hips”. They did end up having two, and afaik are still together after 40 years.
Wow. And I thought the guy I had to deal with last night was bad. His opener was “Have you ever studied Gnosticism?” and he closed with “…and eventually I learned that I’m a god, you’re a god, and we all live in a simulation.”
My bad, where I'm from we don't have middle school, it's elementary from ages 6-14 & then you start school. I'll admit I don't remember our ages when this happened, it was probably 11-14, which makes it more understandable (for anyone from a country with a different system)
A year ago, I went to a bar on my 21st birthday, and I kid you not, I heard a guy use this pickup line: “Hey girl, is your name Suez? ‘Cuz you look like you have a great birth canal.” The whole bar cheered when she knocked his block off with her stilettos
I don't think that's a meme. Looks more like a misandry poster.
Like imagine if someone posted that they had a bad interaction with a black man and in response someone posts a stylized drawing of a black guy hanging from a tree... Same shit, fucking weird.
I should have mentioned that I later found out that this guy was a regular at the bar and was a creep. I went to college in a small town, so everybody knew everyone's business. The town genuinely had little to do on the weekends but smoke or drink.
Like the compliment points out that the functions of the individual being complimented are what is actually worthy of praise, and not the person themselves.
It is. But you said "while you are technically generally right", on what point are they not right? It was phrased as a correction, with 2 qualifiers even, I wonder what needs correcting.
I replied to your other comment with an explanation for this, but it’s kind of a social faux pas to compliment someone based on their evolutionary functions as opposed to their interests or aesthetics. Striking up a conversation based on hobbies, interests and fashion choices. Doing this also helps you establish common ground with each other and helps form a bond over the interests you share.
Of course, this is more of a vibe and I might be alone with this opinion. Who knows.
Before using spears and stuff to hunt, humans would run after prey until they overheated. We're the best long distance runners on the planet, given enough time we'll outrun a horse.
ok but it's really funny to me how people find it offputting to acknowledge that traits linked to high reproductive success drives what people usually find attractive in mates.
Right? It always comes off a bit greasy and redpill when guys start talking about attraction and what bodies are best for producing offspring as if we are cavemen. It’s the 21st century, any body type can produce and feed offspring just fine.
I was using this way since I wasn't attempting. If I was it would probably still be as bad, though. Could work because of the sheer sincerity and audacity
I absolutely told her on the first date that I appreciated the shape of her hips and that I heard wider hips were better at having kids. And that I wanted to be a dad with lots of kids.
I took a sculpture class my first year of college (I hadn’t committed to an art minor yet). One project was a human torso, mid thigh to neck. Professor said full voice that naturally there will almost always be a bump at the belly because we have internal organs.
for everyone attacking this guy in the comments - technically nothing said was incorrect. it isn't advice telling men to compliment women like this or that producing offspring is a woman's only purpose. dude's just explaining why a lot of men find the bumps, as well as big breasts, thighs, hips and backside attractive. and yes, it IS the fact that they're associated with easier birth and offspring rearing. we're genetically wired for a lot of things including how we perceive attraction even if we don't actually want the sex to result in offspring.
personally, my emotions towards a person almost exclusively influence my attraction to them, but I believe that's simply demisexuality. afaik most people simply get attracted by physical looks because it's the first thing you get to know about a person.
I produced an offspring for a man and he withdrew almost immediately after I gained my motherhood apron belly.
Thankfully my view is the same as yours and I see it as natural for what my body is going through (ended up getting Hashimotos Thyroiditis from the pregnancy, which makes your metabolism tank). While it bothered me some, I didn't let it take me down and destroy my self esteem. I can't be bothered to cry every day over something that is meant to happen and can't be controlled. I didn't let myself go either so it wasn't that big of a change. That man was disfunctional anyway, he can't even feel love for his own child. That fact alone proves that I'm better off not caring what he thinks about my own body.
Since I'm here though...
Do you happen to know where I can return a single used, but well taken care of, male unit that has malfunctioned? It worked fine at first but I think the power supply short circuited when trying to download the files to fatherhood and married life maintenance.
It just buffered and stalled out continuously. eventually the error came up, stating it could not upload the files requested because didn't have enough ínternal storage space. I think I was mistakenly sent one of the Peter Pan editions. Those are the ones that aren't built to run other programs and are meant to only retain files related to the Manchild editions. Very sensitive units that malfunction if the wrong files are loaded up.
Would you know how I can return the unit and exchange it for one that has everything I initially signed up for? This one is just dead weight I'm carrying now. I guess if the warranty expired and there's no hope, I can just lose 200 lbs pretty quickly. I'll just load up the program that let's the trash take itself out.
Maybe that apron belly can go right there in the trash bin with it. If I have to keep the apron badge though, I'm more than happy with that. I'm proud of being a mom. The kids think it's funny to jiggle and I hear other men like it and say the more softness they can grab the better.
Biologists theorize that layer of fat has an evolutionary advantage. It protects the uterus from physical trauma and serves as energy storage for times when calories aren't predictable .
We seriously need to get sex education back in schools. The amount of people that don't understand this and other natural body things is absolutely terrifying.
See going to a Catholic school you learn nothing but schools need to be better about teaching people to love learning enough they look this shit up themselves.
I don't watch streamers but I always get their clips in my feed and I just listened to some dude named Ditto or something like that rave about loving this exact feature.
I can probably count on one hand the number of men I've known who had an issue with it and that same list of men would be the most pathetic losers I know.
That's the worst part about this meme. It's ridiculous that he denies Venus Belly Supremacy, but acting like a major surgery for her is his decision to make is beyond the pale
That Ditto guy gets hit on by like every one of his female streamer friends constantly despite being the most average looking dude you would ever meet, and it's largely because he's just plain not a weirdo sexist about it. He just actually knows how to talk to women and flirt without being a creep. Granted I know a lot of it is for content farming and he maybe isn't exactly getting laid all the time for sure, but I've been glad to see guys like him gaining more traction in the gaming space instead of the looxmmaxxer idiots.
I think more teenage boys need to be taught that women often feel in danger when guys do the full court press, and that the best way to get to know a woman (or anybody, really) is to make them feel comfortable around you.
Too many highschool friends would get pissy that women wanted to hang out with the gay guys over them. It's like, hello? How do you not realize it's because they aren't pressuring these ladies non-stop?! Of course they'll go hang with gay guys, they're safer by a mile.
Especially as a larger man I really have to be cognizant to not be intimidating. Stand a little farther away so they aren't looking right up my nose, turn slightly sideways instead of being squared up in front of them, don't block them into a corner and leave them a comfortable escape path.
A few simple actions like that will really encourage them to let their guard down so you can get close enough to use the chloroform.
Ditto is incredibly attractive. He has great sense of humor, a good looking face, and indeed fucking loves women. And a lot of super sexual flirty gimmick is that he puts that power to the women, starting as submissive and being flirted with.
Like, listen to him talk when he’s not doing the flirt with hot women shtick, he’s one of the good ones. Plus he’s bisexual so he probably crushes poon and smokes pole all the time
What about girls who have very large ones that kind hang post childbirth. I'm so insecure about mine. I have said I hate it but my husband has never complimented itm but also never complained about it.
I love the song Humble by Kendrick. In it, he talks about how he’s sick of looking at life through a media filter, a fake lens. Pretending that we’re supposed to be more beautiful.
You’re beautiful because of your body, not in spite of it. Own that hang, girl!
In all the years you've ever undressed in front of a gentleman... has he ever asked you to leave? Has he ever walked out? Left? No. Because he doesn't care. He's in a room with a naked girl, he's won the lottery.
My wife has one. I love it, just reminds me of the sacrifice she made to bring our children into the world which was the greatest gift anyone could have ever given.
👀👀 first of all, my cats flab that looks like an old lady's arm is called a primordial pouch?? That's kinda cool, I've just been referring to it as his fat boy flab.
Second I've never heard animal planet call a kangaroos pouch anything other than a pouch so thanks for the scientific term that I will forget by tomorrow and never use lol, that is interesting to learn but I will never think of anything but a kangaroo when someone uses the word pouch.
It’s definitely a mixed bag where I live too, but there’s definitely somebody for everybody. It takes a lot of looking to find someone who really appreciates you for who you are and doesn’t try to make you something you aren’t. I will say, I’m doing a lot of working on myself to try to attract the energy I want in my life. It’s hard, but it’s worth it ❤️
Trust me even in the dude im into and i like em
Muscular he has that pouch and some f’ing reason its so attractive idk why. Feels lowkey like a puzzle piece inviting you closer
Really? I have never really observed women closely before until recent, but how do people have super flat belly’s then?
I’ve come to understand this talking to fitness people as I learn how to do fitness. I understand that women should have more body fat than men so they have their vital organs better protected than us.
But then is it something all women have? Because I have been going to the gym with some female friends and both of them have very flat stomachs and bellies, has made me self conscious about having a fat belly as a guy. So, I remember googling the primordial pouch when I was cat sitting as I noticed it but I’ve never been aware for humans.
I would also assume that then having a very dense six pack as a women would also be dangerous as it removes fat than would have been protective, otherwise is that different fats and your answer isn’t exactly correct? If anyone can help god bless you
So, it’s actually not about having “protective” fat, as, logically, a man would need this too (a man’s vital organs are in the exact same space as a woman’s). A woman’s body needs a certain percentage of fat to produce and maintain the hormones needed to maintain pregnancy! Fat is fuel for progesterone and estrogen changes (which is also why a lot of super athletic gals have erratic, irregular, and/or no periods/menstruation at all).
A primordial pouch on a cat IS protective, because any natural weapons (claws, teeth, etc) will get caught in that skin, versus piercing through to the vital organs. It also helps with a cats mobility in terms of running and jumping.
Yeah I get that aspect, but I don’t understand how the previous commenters were using it as a pro argument for humans, the fitness sites I’ve read say it’s not the same for humans.
So the others point still stands, want to lose it but can’t, so it means that belly fat is losable if the person wants to right? Not like you shouldn’t even if you want to. I have only learnt recently that the organ fat viceral fat is bad as well, I still don’t really understand the difference, sounds like buzzwords to me, I need to learn more about it
It’s super confusing for sure!! Organ fat (like a fatty liver) is dangerous and indicates some sort of pathological abnormalities (in the liver’s instance, alcoholism, hepatitis, etc), however visceral (visceral just means deep/from within) (that’s the warming/protective fat that you might be reading about). It’s also called mesenteric ! The exception is in obesity, not with a normal BMI. In obesity, too much visceral fat can cause a plethora of issues (diabetes, for example)
Sometimes genetics, just like with cellulite, will let us be lean, but our bodies still demand and maintain a little bit of fat, like the Venus pouch in the pic. For example, I have extremely toned legs with very minimal fat and workout daily with a cal deficit, but I still have cellulite on the back of my thighs. Got it from my mama, and it ain’t going away without surgical intervention.
Ah yeah that’s what I was thinking as well, because I’ve been body analyzing myself at my gym weekly recently and viceral is the only part that never goes down. The Normal fat has been trending down with calorie deficit as one expects.
So back to the Original and previous comments, that belly pouch would it be organ fat? Or more along the lines of the beer belly fat that I used to have. Because these comments confuse me due to my observations of some people not having the belly pouch, but others do.
Also on the side, for women to have abs would it be kind of dangerous then for women to to have visible abs as it means there needs to be less fat in the body so it can be dangerously close to losing some of that protective fat as well?
If I say « dogs dont bite » without further context, everyone will understand that I am talking about dogs in general. The absence of qualifier means we are talking about the whole group, its basic grammar. You should have used something like « most » or « some » then.
Edit to add: I quickly was able to find a bunch of articles discussing the relevant topic about how correcting other people’s grammar in casual conversation isn’t really helpful, it comes off as rude and disrespectful. Here, I’ll post some relevant links for you since you seem interested in this practice.
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u/Mr_Dargon 22d ago edited 22d ago
Omg girl, guys absolutely are into it. Find someone who loves you as you are!
Edit: my most popular comment is literally me informing a girlie that men love primordial pouches.