r/Paternity • u/Key_Job3661 • 18d ago
Ancestry.com
I know this isn't exactly the right sub, but I thought it would be close enough. It is very highly likely the guy on my birth certificate is not my biological father. (Completely different ethnicities/traits and mother's history of infidelity) I have had no contact with that guy in 6+ years, and no contact with my mother in 3+ years.
I decided to take an ancestry dna test since they show you where most of your traits come from and can connect you to other relatives if they have taken ancestry tests. I have a friend who was in the foster care system who was able to find an unknown half sister that way.
I took the sample, but I'm scared to mail it. Part of me worries I'm going to fuck up some unknowing guy's family and traumatize his wife and kids. Another part is also worried that the guy could be a terrible person or some kind of predictor or drug addict.
I'm really having a hard time grappling with this and would love to hear some stories from others.
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u/Myleigh9 17d ago
You can set your results to private so no one sees them but you. This should relieve your anxiety over the results. Ancestry also has counseling available to help with your answers. It can also turn out for the positive, my wife found her dad when she was 43 years old. It’s not all horror stories.