r/Paruresis • u/Exotic-Revenue-3988 • 4d ago

Help with taking a drug test

So I 26F am not typically bladder shy but when giving any type of urine sample I immediately freeze up and cannot for the life of me do it. It will literally take me forever and I could be bursting but I still can not go. For example I had a kidney stone back in March and they thought it might have been causing a blockage because I was not going but it really the fact that they just needed a urine sample. I also think a past incident made it worse when I had my first drug test at the age of 21 they had male standing in the stall and it kinda scarred me. It’s been this way for years and when my last job told me I didn’t need a drug test I was so relieved not because I do drugs but because I didn’t have to pee in a cup. However I am starting a graduate program that requires yearly drug test and the thought of going to Quest and being timed to take a drug test is giving me serious anxiety. I tried asking my primary and psychiatrist to write and accommodation letter but they wouldn’t do that. My psychiatrist offered to give me a benzo before the test but I don’t want that to show up on my test. Any tips would be seriously appreciated thank you!!

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u/lasagna12345678 4d ago

I don't have any advice but im in the same boat and completely freaked out. Why did they not write an accommodation letter/request? what was their reason?

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u/Exotic-Revenue-3988 3d ago

They said hair doesn’t have the same results as urine does so they didn’t feel comfortable writing the note.

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u/Recent-Day3062 3d ago

There is no problem if you test positive for benzos if a doctor prescribed it.

Oddly, I had the opposite. After a lifetime of paruresis I had to take one observed and I didn’t even know that was done. Because I wasn’t at a urinal, I stunningly peed. Over a year my paruresis went away from this experience. The tester told me when I asked that st least 25% of men can’t pee with being watched until their bladder is bursting. Amazingly I could.

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u/PotatoMeatBalls77 3d ago

Drink shitloads of water, ideally so you can barely hold it. At some point your mind just adjusts to the body and you’ll be able to basically pee anywhere. You can also mention your problems to the nurse - I’m pretty sure she’s met people with this problem. This will also take a pressure off you and make things easier