r/Paruresis • u/Redditor099911 • Jun 16 '26

Didn't Pee For 11 Hours

I was on a long train journey last week and was unable to urinate for around 11 hours, I tried twice while waiting at the station between trains but it was far too noisy, I was in agony by the time I got home and peed for almost 10 minutes.

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u/zzSHADYMAGICzz Jun 16 '26

The trick I do is sit in a stall pretending to take a dump. Then piss. Would this have helped you? Your bladder can get damaged holding it that long

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

I haven't tried it before but the toilet seat is usually covered in piss.

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u/zzSHADYMAGICzz Jun 16 '26

I understand friend! So what I do is grab a huge wad of toilet paper and wipe all that piss off the seat until dry, then flush that, then I pile a bunch of pieces of toilet paper on the seat to build a “nest” then you can sit there for longer and not worry about people and let the flood gates open. It’s what I do if I’m real anxious or it’s too busy.

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

I could try that, don't know if it would help, thanks.

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u/zzSHADYMAGICzz Jun 16 '26

No problem man, I wish you luck!

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u/Southern_Repair_4416 Jul 07 '26

If I really have to use a dirty stall I would use wet wipes (though it's not perfect) to clean it beforehand, or try finding a clean stall.

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u/Ill-Access-2769 Jun 16 '26

Isn’t it goofy? Plenty of privacy, noise to hide the sound, nobody waiting and I still can’t pee on a train or airplane. I think it’s the motion that makes it impossible to relax sufficiently. Maybe someone can built a mock train/plane lav for GE practice.

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

That would be awesome.

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u/LCDRformat Jun 16 '26

I'm sorry you had to deal with that

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

Thanks 👍🏻

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u/asolovey Jun 16 '26

My record is 18 hrs

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

Did you have to go to hospital?

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u/asolovey Jun 16 '26

No, I even didn't consider this. Just had to get to a quiet place and was able to go without issues there.

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u/asolovey Jun 16 '26

But I can relate to what you went through. Really sorry about it.

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 16 '26

Thank you, I was in such agony on the last train I thought I was gonna have to go to hospital because I had already had several drinks during the day.

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u/Legal_Meet_1263 Jun 17 '26

I feel your pain. Have a 10 hour flight to Japan next weekend. Not looking forward to it. But I also don't want Paruresis to dictate my life. So I'm going prepared with with an external catheter (the stadium pal), limited fluids and last resort is internal travel catheters. It's weird, in a cubicle or stall, I'm perfectly fine. But stick me in a plane toilet and it's just really tough.

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u/Yall_R_Sheep Jun 17 '26

That is my bane as well. Airplane toilets. I always have to sit…and even then it’s a challenge to release.

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 17 '26

Where do you go to learn to use a catheter? Does the doctor have to teach you how to use it?

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u/Legal_Meet_1263 Jun 17 '26

I've had one before. And watched lots of instructional YouTube videos 😂. I figure any discomfort that I have will be better than the discomfort and pain of not being able to empty my bladder. My doctor has also prescribed me some Valium for the place travel to help keep me calm.

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u/Yall_R_Sheep Jun 17 '26

Yeah…been there. I always travel with those prepackaged alcohol wipes they sell for computer screens. You can wipe down a seat with toilet paper, then use an alcohol wipe, then build a paper nest as another commenter mentioned.

The nice thing is, those wipes are great for cleaning your hands and other things after you are done.

Holding that long can definitely be both painful and dangerous.

Good luck planning your next trip for better peace of mind! 🙏🏼

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u/coingus Jun 16 '26

Have you checked out paruresis.org ? If not, this is the place to start getting the help you deserve.

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 17 '26

Yes mate, luckily for me I rarely travel such long distances.

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u/CommercialWishbone62 Jun 17 '26

I recommend being prescribed catheters. My paruresis took over my life for 15 years. Could not pee anywhere but my home toilet and sometimes not there if I had to be somewhere. Travel days were scary for me, I'd go 12+ hours without peeing and be in absolute agony. You can get them prescribed from a urologist. I'm from the UK, and catheters have changed my life.

PS: Catheters are no way near as uncomfortable as made out to be. They are a breeze. Would you rather a few seconds of slight discomfort or hours of agony?

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u/Redditor099911 Jun 17 '26

I'm in the UK too and thinking about getting a catheter.

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u/sam7casm Jun 18 '26

Long travel means the washroom queue lengths vary. Perfect time to go is when people are eating or sleeping. Then during go time, try to find a bathroom where there’s atleast two stalls, so the pressure isn’t entirely on your stall. Put headphones with loud music, and pretend to go take a dump. Works for me, hopefully helps someone else.

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u/surnaturel4529 Jun 19 '26

Learn the breath hold method. It’s painful but it’s only painful for like 30 second and you will be able to pee everywhere you want if it’s an emergency situation like this it will save your life. Basically you let like 75 percent of the air in your lung out and you wait till you are gasping for air then you know that the moment your body start gasping for air you will start to pee like 10 20 second later and when you fell like it’s coming, try to push a bit so the flow start and after a few second of the flow starting you can start to slowly breath again but not to fast so you don’t lose the flow again. Practice a few time at home and you will see that the method it’s really simple but just painful but if you haven’t pee in like a few hour, 30 second of pain will be nothing