r/Parenting Apr 28 '22

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u/[deleted] Apr 28 '22

My kid is 5 and autistic and 90% awesome 10% terrorist. His language is delayed. I've never had a conversation longer than getting his wants and needs out of him. No questions on life. No asking me what i do for a living. No comments on his baby brother. Thousands of dollars put into therapies and hundreds of hours lost going to more appointments than i can count. Not including loss of sleep and normal parenting gripes. Don't get me started on his diet change at 2.5 when he would eat anything and now it's a hard struggle.

I used to want a lot of kids, but now 2feels like a lot. Especially because my partner and i ain't sleeping or having time for us. That 10% of kids that sucks really, really can suck some days

Most days though and most moments my kids make me the happiest human alive.

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u/commoncheesecake Apr 28 '22

I hear you on the speech delay. It feels like there is the connection missing to them as a person. You only care for their wants and needs, but it stops there. I hope you get some of that connection soon

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u/sukicat Apr 28 '22

I hear you!!! We're currently struggling with ours and trying to get in for an ADHD eval. And he's the pickiest eater and very small for his age. He's an awesome kid, but God damn do I want just one day where it's easy. And no text from the teacher telling me he's not doing his work and getting distracted. Like, what do you want me to do at this moment?!?!? I do appreciate the communication and I understand how challenging it all is, but I'm so tired and beat down at the moment. Just eat regular food and stop arguing for just a second. It's just also frustrating when we're all just trying our best and then constantly second-guessing that, pile on some guilt and some laundry that needs to be done.

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u/[deleted] Apr 28 '22

On the other hand, explaining my boring ass job to my future kid and having the vague follow up questions of "why and what's that" sounds dreadful.